DEAR ABBY: I am a 20-year-old female college student who often comes home to sleep because it's close to my job, and it's my primary residence during the summer and holidays.
I love my family very much, but I'm having a problem because my mother insists on sleeping in my bed with me while I'm there. My stepdad snores incredibly loudly, and he refuses to get help. Mom often can't sleep because of it.
Sometimes he sleeps on the couch and she'll get a reprieve. However, several times a week, Mom will sleep in my bed. Not only does this disrupt my sleep, but I would love to have my privacy back. She has tried earplugs, but they help only a little bit. How can I get my personal space back? I would value some advice. -- OVER IT IN BUFFALO
DEAR OVER IT: Because your stepdad's snoring can't be heard from the couch, on nights when your mother needs to sleep in your bed, why don't you take the couch? That way all of you can get a good night's rest. However, until you are independent and able to make other living arrangements, you may have to sacrifice your need for privacy in the interest of practicality.
P.S. Individuals who have a serious snoring problem should let their doctor know, because it could be a symptom of a life-threatening medical condition called sleep apnea. Please tell your mother that if her husband's snoring is irregular and he "holds his breath" between snores, it shouldn't be ignored.