DEAR ABBY: I have a friend whose father recently passed away. Her mother passed away eight years ago. Everything was paid for -- all funeral arrangements and anything else you can think of.
She's wondering what to do with the money she received in the cards people sent her. Have masses? Donate it to charity? Her sibling took some of the cards from her mom's funeral and applied the money toward a vacation. My friend just wants to do the right thing. What is the right thing? -- WANTS TO DO WHAT'S RIGHT
DEAR WANTS: If the money isn't needed for expenses, it is the recipient's to do with as she (or he) wishes. However, a thoughtful and respectful thing to do would be for your friend to donate it to a charity her father supported, or toward research into a cure for the disease that took his life.