DEAR ABBY: My elderly parents are opposites. Dad is a self-absorbed narcissist with no moral compass. Mom is a Christian woman who is loved by many. When they die, Mom will be missed. When Dad goes, we will mostly feel relief.
Would it be acceptable to have a large, lovely funeral for Mom, giving others the chance to pay their final respects, but for Dad, just a small family service? -- PLANNING AHEAD
DEAR PLANNING: Not only would it be acceptable, it would also be practical since few people pay respects to someone who isn't worthy of respect.