DEAR ABBY: I'm a 14-year-old girl and I have an identical twin. The problem is, she always gets all the attention, especially from boys. I don't understand why because we look exactly alike, and in my opinion, I have the better personality. When I'm around her, which is practically all the time, I feel invisible -- as if people only see HER. How do I get people to stop noticing my sister and get them to see that I deserve some attention? -- HERE, TOO, IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HERE, TOO: You say you and your twin are together practically all the time. THAT may be the problem. If you want to be noticed, start joining activities on your own. That way, you will develop separate interests and, along with them, separate friendships. Although you and your twin are identical, you do not have to be joined at the hip. Remember that.