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by Abigail Van Buren

Cancer Diagnosis Changes Couple's Marriage Plans

DEAR ABBY: My fiance has just been told that he has cancer. He wants to move our wedding date up because of it, to make sure my boys and I will be taken care of if things don't go well. I am torn about whether we should. I want to marry him, but I think we should work on one thing at a time. Thoughts, Abby? -- MAYBE MARRYING IN MINNESOTA

DEAR MAYBE MARRYING: Your fiance is looking out for you and your boys, and I respect that. The traditional marriage vows include "... for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." He may survive his cancer diagnosis -- many patients do.

While some in your situation would want to wait until things were more certain, there are no guarantees in life. Your fiance will need your strength, love and care in the months to come, and if knowing you are taken care of will ease his mind, I think you should do it.

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