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by Abigail Van Buren

Fiance Questions Phone Time Woman Spends With Daughter

DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Jasper," says I'm weird for talking to my daughter while I'm driving to work and 90 percent of the time on my commute back home. She's a young mother with a 1-year-old and a 4-year-old. Her husband is "difficult," and there are also some personal issues -- but I am proud of how well she's doing.

I work full time and she works part time, so even though we live in the same town, we don't see each other as often as we'd like. At 25, she is growing into my best friend, and I love helping her through decisions, etc. I don't agree that this is weird at all. I believe most mothers and daughters do this.

How can I get through to my fiance that this is normal? Even if it weren't, it isn't getting in his way or taking anything away from him. Don't you agree he should just let it be? -- GOOD MOTHER IN MASSACHUSETTS

DEAR GOOD MOTHER: Yes, I do. If your fiance had said he was concerned that you might get into an accident because your conversations were distracting, I would answer differently. However, that he would label your closeness to your daughter "weird" makes me wonder if he might be jealous of the bond you share with her. Are you giving him his fair share of your attention?

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