Join the debate. Vote Now on the Dear Abby Poll of the week.

by Abigail Van Buren

Wife of Deaf Husband Seeks to Cope in New Surroundings

DEAR ABBY: My son took his own life last year. I am raising his small children because their mother is out of the picture. How do I tell them how their daddy died? -- GRANDMA IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR GRANDMA: Tell them gradually when they start asking questions. If they ask why Daddy died, say he was very ill. When they want to know what the illness was, tell them he suffered from depression. When they want more details, reveal them in an age-appropriate manner.