DEAR ABBY: I am 25. My husband is 50, and we have been married for three years. We are in a healthy relationship, raise his 12-year-old together and are trying for our own children. We have plans for the rest of our lives, are in good health, have regular checkups, and our life insurance and estate planning are in order.
But, Abby, sometimes I find myself worrying about his age. I cry when I contemplate spending a chunk of my life alone because I don't think I could ever love anyone else as strongly as I do him. My husband is my rock, my reason for living, and I'm grateful for every moment I have with him.
I'm psychologically well otherwise. These sad feelings don't last longer than a few hours. Is this normal? Should I talk with someone about it? Should I just tell my husband my feelings and remind him how much he means to me? -- HAPPILY MARRIED IN HENDERSON, NEV.
DEAR HAPPILY MARRIED: Your feelings are normal for a woman who is fully invested emotionally in her husband. However, if your anxiety over the possibility of losing him increases, by all means talk to a licensed mental health professional about it.
As to your last question, whether you should confide your feelings to him, it would be a beautiful compliment to let him know you don't take his importance in your life for granted or the joy he has brought you. But don't be surprised if, when he hears you say it, he says the same thing back to you. You both are truly blessed.