DEAR HARRIETTE: My uncle was diagnosed with liver cancer two months ago. I am very close with him, and I see him every holiday -- even though he lives in the United Kingdom. From what my mother has been telling me, it is not looking good. He has undergone multiple surgeries and is on his second round of chemo. I want to be there for him and spend time with my uncle before I don’t get the chance to. The problem is, I don’t have enough money to fly to the U.K. anytime soon. I’m sure if I asked my aunt (my uncle’s wife), they would be more than happy to fly me over. Do you think it’s inappropriate to propose this idea to my family members? -- Struggling Niece, Miami
DEAR STRUGGLING NIECE: Given the circumstances, you should call your aunt right away. Tell her how sorry you are about your uncle’s health. Tell her you want to see him as soon as possible, but you cannot afford to come. Ask her if she would be willing to buy you a ticket. She will understand your financial situation as well as the time sensitivity of your visit. I’m sure if she has the means, she will buy you that ticket.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)