Sense & Sensitivity by Harriette Cole

Reader Caught Snooping on Father's Computer

DEAR HARRIETTE: I was recently caught snooping for the prenuptial agreement of my father and his new wife. My father caught me on his computer sifting through his legal documents, so what I was looking for was obvious. He didn’t demand an explanation, and I just left the room because I didn’t want to explain myself.

Should I ask my father to speak about this with me, or is it none of my business? I want to know because his last wife took half of his estate. -- Safety First, Denver

DEAR SAFETY FIRST: Given your father’s history, it may be a good idea for you to address his situation with his new wife upfront. Ask your father if you can have a candid conversation with him. If he agrees, express your concern about the safety of his resources. Make it clear that you don’t harbor any negative feelings about his new wife, but since he experienced such a huge loss with his previous wife, you want to make sure that he is properly protected. Ask him if he made a prenup with her. You might also suggest that he speak to an attorney to make clear how he can handle his estate now, even after he is married. This should include whatever your father intends to share with you.

If he refuses to talk about it, back down. But make it clear to him that you are looking out for his best interests, and that’s the only reason you are bringing it up.