Why get a pet if you don't want a pet in your life? I have often wondered this as I walk my dogs down streets lined with fences behind which lonely outdoor dogs bark as we go by.

I don't know what they look like, and can only guess their size by the deepness of their voices. But I know what the lives of these dogs are too often like. They are animals born to be part of a social structure, a pack or a family, yet this is denied them. They spend their lives on the outside, looking in.

The experts say many of these dogs will never really bond with owners who interact with them so little. When the puppy is no longer cute and the children grow tired of the care they promised to provide, when the destructiveness escalates or the neighbors complain about the noise, it's often just easier to dump the dog than solve the problem.

I have always had difficulty understanding why people want to keep dogs outside. If keeping a beautiful house and yard are of the utmost importance to you, then don't get a dog. If you know someone in your family can't abide a dog in the house, for whatever reason, then don't get a dog. If you can't let a dog be part of your family, then don't get a dog.

You don't get the benefits of companionship from a dog you see so little. You don't even get much in the way of protection from the pet who has no access to the house. And don't count on outdoor dogs as an early-warning system. These animals often become such indiscriminate barkers that you couldn't tell from their sound whether the dogs are barking at a prowler or at a toddler riding a tricycle down the street. Besides, people who keep outdoor dogs seem to become quite good at ignoring the noise they make, as any angry neighbor can vouch.

Outdoor dogs often become a problem to their owners. Bored and lonely, these animals develop any number of bad habits. They dig craters in the yard. They bark endlessly day and night. They become chewers of outdoor furniture, sprinkler heads and siding. And sometimes, without the socialization all dogs need, they become aggressive, ready to bite anyone who comes into their territory.

If you're considering getting a puppy or dog with the intent of keeping him exclusively outside, please reconsider -- for the animal's sake as well as your own and your neighbors'. A pristine home is nothing compared to the pleasures of living with an animal who's really bonded to you. If you don't think so, you shouldn't get a dog.

If you have a dog who has been banished because of behavior problems, find someone to help you turn the situation around. Ask your veterinarian for a referral to a behaviorist or trainer who can show you how to overcome the things that are driving you crazy, whether it's house-soiling, uncontrolled chewing or just the ill-mannered exuberance of a dog who doesn't know any better.

Allergies are a tad trickier, but an allergist may be able to help, along with attention to keeping the house and pets cleaner, using air cleaners and turning bedrooms into no-pet zones for allergy-free sleep.

It's worth the effort. Once you have a dog you can welcome into your home and your heart, you'll start to reap the benefits of a relationship that's finally being realized to its fullest potential. And that's good news for you both.

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Sally Blanchard has strong opinions about parrots -- and she doesn't seem to care who disagrees with her. In both her public appearances and in her magazine, The Companion Parrot Quarterly, she offers strongly worded advice on how these clever pets should be raised, handled and cared for.

With some pet publications caring more about offending advertisers than offering information that puts pets first, Blanchard's views are a breath of fresh air. Her magazine is worth subscribing to for anyone who has, or is thinking of getting a parrot. You can also find a wide variety of articles for free on Blanchard's Web site (www.companionparrot.com). Call it a public service from a person for whom healthy, happy parrots are a life's work.

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A cat can purr, but a lion can't, nor can any of the other big felines. A tiger can rumble a friendly greeting, but only on the exhale. No big cat can get his motor running the way our household kitties can, purring constantly as effortlessly as breathing, both in and out.

To even things out, however, big cats possess the ability to roar. On the whole, the little cat got the better part of that deal, at least so far as human fans of the cat are concerned.

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: I applaud your recent column in which you advocated ID tags for all pets. My cat Violet was losing her collar every few days, each a nice one with a tag and bells. I decided I couldn't afford this endless supply of replacement collars, and I hypothesized that the tag was the reason for the losses.

As an experiment, I equipped a collar with a tag made from a Brother P-touch label-maker. I wrote her name, our street address and phone number, then peeled off the backing, slipped the strip through the D-ring on the collar and pressed the two sides together. The combination has a jaunty look, and many months later neither the collar nor the label have disappeared. Would you pass this tip along? –- C.S., via e-mail

A: Your ingenuity reminds me of another suggestion for putting identification on cats, which a friend gave to me many years ago. She would order cloth labels, the kind you put in children's clothing, with her name and phone number. Then, she would get elastic from the fabric store, and cut it into strips for a snug, but not tight, fit around her cats' necks.

She'd put the ends together, add the cloth tag and slip the new collars on her cats. The collars are easy to make up several at a time, and cheap enough to replace frequently if lost. Because they are made of elastic, they'll slip off if a cat gets hung up on something.

Whatever method you choose, do be sure to get an ID on your pet. Even better, add a microchip for permanent ID that cannot be removed or slipped off.

Sometimes people think they don't need ID for their cats because the animals never roam. Indoor cats need tags just as much, maybe even more. Should they slip outside they're going to have an even more difficult finding their way home, because they'll be afraid and in unfamiliar surroundings.

ID is a cheap ticket home, for all pets. Even my parrot, who never goes outside, is equipped with a microchip ID, just in case.

Q: We just got a new puppy for Christmas, and I wasn't part of the decision. If I had been, I would have disagreed because I know how much attention puppies need, having raised one before. I have a toddler and giving the puppy attention is not going to be easy. I feel a little resentful leaving it in a crate pretty much the entire day. But I am not sure what else to do, because I have other things to attend to than trying to take care of a puppy. Please try to help me not feel resentful. -- P.H., via e-mail

A: This is a sad situation all around, and one that's almost certain to end sadly for you and badly for the puppy.

If you cannot get the family member who wanted the puppy to assume responsibility for the animal's care, then I recommend that you start looking for another home for the young dog. If you don't, I can almost guarantee you'll be finding a home for the animal later, when he is unsocialized, untrained and no longer cute.

Half-grown dogs with behavior problems are prime candidates for euthanasia at the shelters. It's not their fault they are not wanted, but still ... they are not wanted. Please do what's right for this youngster and remove him from a bad situation now, while he's cute enough to attract interest, and before you've allowed him to develop bad habits that will be a challenge to change.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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In my mail recently came a six-fingered glove, made of absorbent material and designed to clean pet paws easily and quickly.

The product, Spotless Paw, is cleverly designed -- with the six fingers it fits over either hand, backward and forward -- and worked pretty well, to a point. At about halfway through the 16 filthy paws at my home, the mitt was outmatched. (It's a nifty product for those with fewer or cleaner dogs than I have, though: $19.95 from pet retailers or www.spotlesspaw.com.)

With seven permanent pets and an ever-changing number of guests and fosters, I'm constantly looking for easier ways to keep my house looking and smelling clean. Products come and go, but the struggle continues. Over the years, I've learned the hard way how to keep pet mess and smell to a minimum.

Here are the basics:

-- Start with surfaces that are easy to keep clean. When choosing flooring, go for tile or other durable, stain-proof flooring. Many multipet families swear by laminate flooring, which looks like hardwood but stands up better to canine nails.

What you can't keep clean, keep covered with something washable. Use small rugs to cover high-traffic areas of your wall-to-wall carpet, and furniture throws to protect your upholstery. (Doctors Foster and Smith has a good selection of furniture throws that can take years of weekly washings -- on this I speak from experience -- and keep looking nice. The company is on the Web at www.drsfostersmith.com, or request a free catalog at 1-800-381-7179.)

-- Catch the dirt you can before it spreads throughout your home. Use floor mats liberally, both outside your doors and just inside, to catch as much muck as you can from those dirty paws. You should also place mats near cat boxes, to help catch any litter that's tracked out. Don't forget to put even more mats under pet food and water dishes. Forget those cutesy-pie pet placemats -– go for something sturdy, and of decent size.

-- Keep pets well-groomed. Brush and comb your pets regularly, and don't delay regular bathing. Your pets will smell better, and the hair you catch in the grooming process won't end up floating around your home.

-- Search and destroy past messes. Sometimes you can see them and not smell them; other times you can smell them and not see them. You have to clean them all, so as not to invite repeat business. If a mess has soaked through, you must pull up the carpet and clean or replace the padding

below.

-- Get on new messes promptly. Messes are easier to clean when they're fresh, and are less likely to leave a permanent stain or attract your pet to revisit the area.

For cleaning, use products designed for pet messes. Available from any pet-supply retailer, these products have enzymes that break down organic wastes and neutralize odors. Pass on ammonia-based cleaners, which smell like urine to pets and so invite repeat business.

The truth is, keeping a home clean when pets are around isn't that difficult, but it does require good planning, the right products and constant effort. If you prevent the mess and you never let a mess sit for too long, your house will always be a pleasant place for you and your pets.

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If you're looking for someone who has too much time on his hands, check out the Cat Town Web site (www.spatch.net/cattown). The creator has taken some silly images of cats in hats and collars -- lifted from the Japanese site that sells the products -- and written stories to go with them. Strange? Sure, but I found myself smiling with every click in Cat Town, slightly relieved that I wasn't wasting as much time reading the site as the creator spent pulling it together. Besides, the cats are darn cute.

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A few months ago I wrote about the Kitty Tease, a cat toy of the "fishing pole" variety that I found to be of exceptional quality and value, made by a small family business in Tennessee. (It's so small that the owner's young son is in charge of handling the replacement-string orders.) Since that column came out, hardly a week goes by without someone asking me to repeat the information.

The Kitty Tease is available for $15 including shipping and handling (additional toys to the same address are $10 each), from the Galkie Company's Web site (www.kittytease.com), by phone (423-869-8138) or by mail (P.O. Box 20, Harrogate, TN 37752). Your cat will love it!

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: Recently I lost my beloved Ariel, a 5-year-old shih tzu, and I am so grief-stricken and lonesome. I know I want another shih tzu, but since I work all day, I am not sure if I can manage a puppy. I am looking into shih tzu rescues and older dog adoptions, but it seems older shih tzus are scarce. If I go the puppy route, do you have any suggestions on what to do when I'm at work? -- V.G., via e-mail

A: Puppies need to eat and go out at midday. If you can't come home for lunch for a few weeks, arrange for a neighbor, friend or family member to drop by in your place. A pet-sitting service will be happy to handle this duty, as well.

In your situation, though, I really think you're on the right track looking for an older dog. As you discovered, the number of small, purebred puppies in rescue isn't that many. But if you expand your search to include mixes and older dogs, you'll likely come up with a wonderful companion. Try visiting the Petfinder Web site (www.petfinder.org) to see what's available in your region.

If you absolutely must have a young, purebred shih tzu, here's a little-known secret: Reputable breeders sometimes have young adult dogs they'd like to place in permanent pet homes.

It's not easy to pick a top show dog from a litter of promising puppies, which is why breeders often "grow out" their top prospects, knowing they won't keep them all. The pups who don't realize their potential need good homes, as do retired show champions who don't fit into a breeding program. While these dogs are not "free to a good home," they generally can be had for the price of a well-bred pet-quality puppy, sometimes less.

How to find these dogs? Go to dog shows and talk to the exhibitors, collecting names of reputable breeders. Follow up with phone calls, explaining the wonderful home you have to offer, and that you're looking for an older dog. Be patient, and keep working on it.

Two of my four dogs came to me through this route. They were dogs who didn't make the cut for competition, and who ended up with the cushiest job of all -- being a pampered pet. They were young, healthy, well-socialized and had some basic training, and they've been the most wonderful companions ever since.

Whichever route you take, please make sure you're ready for a new dog. You've lost a darling dog in Ariel, and if you rush into getting a new companion, you may find yourself feeling guilty, or holding the new dog up to unfair comparisons. Take your time!

Q: I have two problems with my African gray parrot. First, he's a feather-picker, and I can't get him to stop. Second, he won't eat anything but sunflower seeds. Any suggestions? -- W.K., via e-mail

A: These two problems may be related, since good nutrition is essential to the health of all pets, and an all-seed diet is bad news for parrots. You need to find a veterinarian with experience in treating birds, and get your bird a complete physical. You may need a review of proper care for your pet. An experienced avian veterinarian will be able to offer assistance in getting your bird onto a healthy diet and may be able to help with the feather-picking. (No guarantees, sadly, because once this habit is well-established it can be difficult to eliminate.)

One source for a knowledgeable bird doctor is the Web site of the Association of Avian Veterinarians (www.aav.org). Be sure to search by area codes (yours and adjacent ones) or by state, since the search engine isn't sophisticated enough to provide anything more than an exact match for smaller search areas.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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Before everyone seemed to have an e-mail account, it used to take a few days until I'd get my first question from the new parent of a Christmas puppy. Now, the e-mails start on Christmas Day.

"I can't get this puppy to stop peeing everywhere!" write the panicky people, typically with no shortage of exclamation points. Puppies need to relieve themselves after they wake up, eat or drink, or after a period of play, and most prefer to do it away from their eating and sleeping areas. Use this knowledge to set up a schedule for molding proper behavior, with a pet carrier (also known as a crate) for your training tool.

First thing in the morning: Take your puppy out of the crate and coax him to follow you outside to relieve himself. Choose a command -- "hurry up" is what I use -- and praise him for going. Take him inside and give him food and water, then go outside again immediately. Give the command again and praise him when he goes. At this stage he's not really minding your command, but you're associating the act with the words, which will come in handy in the future.

If you're going to work, put him back in the crate. If you're not going to work, let him play for a couple of hours, but don't give him full run of the house. Close doors or use baby gates to keep him where you can see him. After an hour or two, take him outside again, and repeat the command and praise. He'll be ready for a little nap, so put him in his crate until lunchtime.

At midday, take your puppy out of the crate and head outside for another round of command, relieve and praise for a job well done. Then take him back inside for food and water, then back outside. If you're home on your lunch hour, play with him a little before you put him back in his crate. If you're going to be home with him, leave him out to play where you are, under your watchful eyes. Take him out in mid-afternoon, and then crate him for his afternoon nap.

If you cannot come home for lunch, get a friend or neighbor to handle the midday break. If that's not possible, set your puppy up in a safe area like the kitchen, and realize you'll be cleaning up a mess when you get home. Don't punish your puppy for the mess, because he can't help himself. (Rule of thumb: Puppies can "hold it" for their age in months -- a 4-month-old puppy can "hold it" for four hours.)

At dinnertime, take him out, feed him, and then take him out and let him play. Leave him out for play and socializing in an area where you can watch him. Offer him a little water a couple of hours before bedtime, but no more food.

Take one last trip out at bedtime. Give your command, and after your puppy does what you want, praise him like the dickens. Then bring your little angel inside and put him in his crate for the night. For the first month or so, you may also have to add a "wee-hours" outing to the schedule. If he wakes up and fusses at 3 a.m., take him out.

If you're patient, positive and consistent, your puppy will start getting the idea right away, even if his body won't allow him to be "perfect" for a few months yet. (Don't punish for "mistakes" -- just clean them up thoroughly.) If he doesn't seem to understand what you want, talk to a trainer or behaviorist to figure out what the problem is, and get the two of you back on track.

PETS ON THE WEB

"The cat could very well be man's best friend but would never stoop to admitting it." -- Doug Larson.

I love quotations! I have several books of them, and I'm always adding new ones to a collection I keep on my computer. The Pet Factory (which sells American-made rawhide chews) has collected many of the best quotes about cats and dogs on its "Fun Stuff" Web page (www.petfactory.com/quote.html). The site also has an entertaining collection of animal trivia.

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The Whole Dog Journal is one of my favorite pet-related publications, and its upcoming issue for February is the most anticipated of the year. That's when the publication takes its annual look at dry dog foods and recommends a dozen or so foods based on quality, not advertising. The February issue alone is worth the price of an annual subscription, which is $20 for 13 issues, including access to all current articles on the Web site (www.whole-dog-journal.com). Subscribe on the Web, by mail at Whole Dog Journal, P.O. Box 420234, Palm Coast, FL 32142-0234, or by phone, 800-829-9165.

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: We have a 13-month-old Labrador who invariably wakes up at 6 a.m. The past three mornings, though, his wake-up time has been around 4:30 a.m. I'm inclined to think that he needs more exercise, since he has the typical amount of young Lab energy.

My husband wanted me to see if there's anything else we could be doing differently that would help him sleep better. Do you have any thoughts, or do we simply have a dog who's a "morning person"? -- E.S., via e-mail

A: I envy my brother, with his bed-slug boxer. When my brother gets out of bed, his dog stretches, yawns and rolls onto the warm spot my brother had occupied. The dog then falls back to sleep.

Those of us who live with retrievers have a different life. Retrievers are bred to joyfully do a long day's work, and those days simply cannot start early enough for these dogs. 4:30 a.m.? Time to go hunting!

I'm not sure why your dog has suddenly started getting up earlier, unless he's figured out that he gets fed as soon as he gets you two out of bed. (Food is another prime motivator for retrievers, who are notorious chow hounds.)

I feel safe in saying that you're correct in that more exercise wouldn't be a bad thing. Even though I haven't a clue how much exercise your dog gets currently, there's no such thing as enough activity for a 13-month-old Labrador. An evening aerobic session will help him to sleep more soundly.

You should also take away his reward for waking you. Do not make feeding him the first thing on his morning agenda -- or yours. Instead, pick the paper off the porch, make yourself breakfast, take a shower, etc., and then, when your needs are met, address his. You need to break the connection in his head between your waking up and his getting fed.

Try not to react to his alarm-clock act. Don't get up, don't yell. Just ignore. You'll have a difficult time doing this at first, but he will finally come to understand which behaviors alter your actions, and which don't. The ones that don't work, he'll drop.

Above all, be patient. Labs are often a big pain in the fanny until they grow up, which eventually happens between the age of 2 and 4. He's a big puppy now, but you'll start noticing a serious trend toward mellow as he leaves his adolescence.

Q: Our New Year's resolution is for the whole family to trim down and eat healthier, including the dog! My question: How do I know what a good weight for our dog is? Are there height-weight charts, as there are for people? -- J.H., via e-mail

A: With dogs, determining fitness is done with the eyes and the fingers. First, look at your dog from the side. You should see a "tuck up" behind the rib cage, so that your dog has a discernible waistline. Ribs should not be visible, but neither should be rolls of fat. From above, you should see also see that "nip in" at the waist -- a dog should not resemble a coffee table when viewed from above.

Now, put your hands on your dog, on his ribs, and press in gently, then move forward and back. You should feel a slight padding over the ribs, but still easily be able to feel the bones with your fingers.

Not sure? Ask your veterinarian for advice. While you're there, ask to weigh your dog to have a baseline for determining progress. Your veterinarian should allow you to bring your dog in just for follow-up weighing without charge.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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