Sometimes you can see these things coming a mile away.

Last year a woman with whom I share a mutual friend called for advice on getting a puppy "for the kids." Involved parents, nice kids -- these are the sort of folks whose family picture seemingly wouldn't be complete without a dog. But after talking with her for a while, I pointed out that her concept of how much time it takes to raise a puppy was not based in reality. With work, school and all the sports and other activities in which the children were involved, the family was never home, and I warned her that if she went forward, her puppy plan would likely not turn out well.

I suggested that they put off getting a dog until their lives were more suited for it, if ever. But both parents had grown up with dogs and had remembered how wonderful those childhood pets were. Their children deserved the same wonderful memories, and they were resolved to provide them.

So the family went to the shelter, where the kids happily picked out a darling Lab-mix puppy.

When the woman called for advice on house-training, I suggested using a crate to house-train the puppy. They abandoned that effort as unkind and impractical when the puppy cried to be let out and the kids gave in. Later, when the long-debunked "put the puppy's nose in it and spank" method didn't produce reliable results, the puppy went outside for good.

Lonely and bored, the puppy started destroying the landscaping, digging holes and chewing shrubs. When the woman called again, I suggested more interaction, more exercise and some training. The father tried to walk the dog a few times, but she pulled so hard on the leash it wasn't fun for either of them, so he gave it up. In their frustration over seeing their beautiful yard ruined, the parents took to dragging her to the damaged areas and spanking her, even though she had no idea why they were angry.

Sadly, the kids who had begged for a puppy were becoming afraid of the half-grown dog she'd become. Not because she was vicious, but because she was so glad to see anyone she'd jump up and claw -- and sometimes knock down -- those who came into the back yard. When the woman called again, I made more suggestions, but I could hear in her voice that they weren't going to take any of them. It was just too much work, too much time.

When the parents first talked about finding a "new home" a few months after the puppy arrived, the children begged to keep her. Tears flowed, and the plan was shelved -- for a while. But clearly, the situation could not go on as it had.

I guess the woman was too embarrassed to call when they put in a run for the dog, a small chain-link enclosure in a shady corner of the property that kept the adolescent pup away from the landscaping and the family. About the only time anyone interacted with the dog now was when one of the kids was nagged to refill her food and water dishes, or to pick up after her.

Out in her corner of the back yard, the dog had started to become a problem barker. Frustrated, they would open the window and scream for her to shut up, and she would, for a while. But when they were gone, which was most of the time, she never stopped barking, and the neighbors were complaining.

When the received a citation for the barking, they decided the dog had to go. That weekend, they took her back to the shelter. The parents reassured the children that she would find a home, and I know they wanted to believe it themselves. The woman didn't call me to find out what happens to many unruly and unwanted dogs, because I know she didn't really want to know.

Because they are good people, they didn't blame the dog for what had happened, although a lot of people do, in similar circumstances. But they didn't much blame themselves, either. After all, getting a puppy was done with the best of intentions, in the interests of providing something good for their children.

Problem was, the interests of the dog were never really considered.

PETS ON THE WEB

Spring is especially sweet for those who share their lives with turtles and tortoises -- it's the time when these gentle pets come out of their cold-weather sleep. If you're just waking up to the appeal of turtles and tortoises, a couple of Web sites will give you what you need to know to care for them properly.

Probably the most comprehensive site of its kind is the California Turtle & Tortoise Club's (www.tortoise.org). This well-organized site offers lots of care information, photographs and a calendar of events from around the world. Good links, libraries of pictures and sound files round out this very nice site. On the other side of the country, the New York Turtle and Tortoise Society also has a good Web site (http://nytts.org/). Their emphasis is not only on captive pets, but also the protection and conservation of turtles and tortoises in their native habitats.

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Thinking of adding another bird to your flock? For the safety of the pet birds you already have, skip any introductions until your new bird has been examined by a veterinarian who's experienced in avian medicine. Even a seemingly healthy bird needs to be quarantined for about six weeks before meeting any other feathered family members. As heartbreaking as it would be to lose your new pet to an infectious disease you didn't know he was carrying, imagine how you would feel if you lost any or all of the birds you already have because you introduced them to a sick bird. You just can't be too careful.

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: I met some greyhounds at an adoption event at a local pet supermarket. I'd never really seen them up close, unless you count that time in the '70s when my husband and I went to a dog track in Florida.

I was taken with their calmness and was told they are easygoing pets, although large. Is this true? I'm thinking of contacting the group again and adopting one of their dogs. Our last dog died of old age last year, and we miss having a pet. –- B.B. via e-mail

A: Some of the most incredible dogs I have met in recent years have been retired racers. The eyes on these guys are so deep you could drown in them, and I've never seen animals who seem to be more grateful for a chance to be loved.

Greyhounds are generally easygoing, relative to many breeds and mixes of dogs. An adult greyhound will happily sleep most of the day -- they don't call them "the 45 mph couch potato" for nothing! A good daily walk, on leash for safety, will be more than enough to keep your dog fit and happy.

Q: How old must a kitten be before being spayed? We went to look at kittens at the shelter, and they insist the babies be fixed before adoption, which seems a little young to us. I thought these procedures needed to wait until the animals are 6 months old? -- L.E., via e-mail

A: Puppies and kittens can be safely neutered as young as 8 weeks, and studies have consistently shown no long-term problems with health or behavior for surgeries that are done earlier than the 4- to 6-month ideal previously considered standard procedure.

Your shelter is to be commended for taking a proactive stand on reducing the number of unwanted animals. Such policies show that the organization is actively fighting pet overpopulation by trying to stop the kittens-out/kittens-in cycle that happens when the first babies of spring become the last parents of fall.

I wouldn't hesitate to adopt from your shelter, but if you end up with a kitten from another source, follow your veterinarian's advice on when to alter your pet. Although early spay-neuter is safe, not all veterinarians are comfortable with performing the operation that early.

If your veterinarian prefers that you wait until your kitten is older, be sure your pet is kept inside to keep her from getting pregnant. A lot of "oops" litters result when well-meaning people don't keep an eye on their pets and don't get around to making that appointment until it's too late.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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Back in the late '70s, when I first started teaching obedience classes and competing with my own dogs in obedience trials, the choke-chain collar was standard training equipment. I had dozens of them -- hanging from the end of every leash, in the pockets of my jackets, dangling from hooks in the garage.

How things have changed! I realized the other day that none of the four dogs who share my life now ever wear a choke-chain collar. These days, I know ways that are easier on me and my dogs when it comes to teaching leash manners.

For years I've argued that the choke-chain collar is only for walking and training your dog, and that you put your dog at grave risk if you leave a chain collar on an unleashed dog. That's because the moving ring of the chain can get snagged. When a dog feels the chain tighten, his natural instinct is to pull away, which causes the collar to tighten even more.

The end result is too easy to imagine. Over the years I've heard from readers whose dogs have choked to death when their collar rings became caught on the tooth of another dog in play, on a piece of fencing in the yard or even a heater grate in the house. In other cases, dogs were injured and traumatized, and the owners who saved their lives by getting them free of the collar's deadly grip were often bitten by their terrified dogs.

Knowing what I know, I want to scream when I see people whose dogs have choke-chain collars for everyday wear, as evidenced by tags hanging from the stationary ring. I cannot say this strongly enough: If your dog is wearing a choke-chain collar as his everyday collar, replace it with a buckle or snap-together collar today.

OK, so that's what I've always said: Choke-chain collars are for training and walking only. But these days I go one step more: When you take that chain collar off, throw it away.

The choke-chain collar has always been a problem in dog-training because it's a piece of equipment that's nearly impossible for the average dog owner to use properly. And when the collar isn't used properly, it's ineffective at best, cruel at worst.

There are only two ways to put on a choke-chain collar: with the moving end over the dog's neck (correct), or under the dog's neck (incorrect). By the simplest law of averages you'd think folks would get them on right half the time, but it never seems to work that way.

When the moving part of the chain comes from under the dog's neck, the chain doesn't release easily when the leash is slackened. And that means the collar is constantly tight, choking the dog.

Even if the collar's put on right, people still manage to use it wrong. A choke-chain collar is meant to be loose at all times except for the occasional split-second tightening to correct a dog's behavior. But people don't seem to know that, and so I am always seeing gasping dogs in tight choke chains dragging their owners behind them.

So throw away those choke chains and get the help of a good trainer to choose the right piece of equipment and to learn how to use it. For some dogs, a buckle or snap-together collar will be all you need. For others, a head halter such as the Gentle Leader will work best. For a few dogs, the best choice may be a pinch-collar, which looks horrific but can't tighten down the way a choke-chain can.

Before too long, you'll have a dog who's easy to walk and who'll be able to breathe while he does it. Won't that be an improvement?

PETS ON THE WEB

Boxers run in my family. As a young man, my late grandfather fought professionally under the name of Pete Daley (so his mother wouldn't know what he was up to), and for as long as I've been alive, there have been canine boxers in my family as well. They're great dogs! If you love boxers, too, you ought to visit Boxerworld (www.boxerworld.com ). There's lots of great information on the breed, and ways to get even more advice by asking questions of longtime boxer fanciers. Best of all, there are thousands of images of boxers, contributed by their loving owners. There's a big push for boxer rescue on the site for those boxers who don't have loving owners -- yet!

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While it might be hard to believe if you live in a place where there's still snow on the ground, spring has officially arrived. Days that are warm -- but not yet hot -- lull many dog owners into thinking it's OK to leave their pets in the car while running errands. Be careful! Even a sunny day in the 70s or low 80s can turn a car into a death trap for your dog. Call it the "greenhouse effect" if it makes it easier to understand why this happens. All those windows on your car let heat come in and build to dangerous levels quickly. And no, a cracked window isn't going to save your dog from one of the most miserable deaths imaginable.

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: I have a problem that my veterinarian can't answer, and I am desperate for some help. I have a spayed female boxer/Akita mix and her urine is burning my lawn. I tried a product I bought from a pet catalog that is for this specific problem, but it hasn't worked in the year and a half I have used it. It's expensive, too.

I am sure there must be some herb or ingredient I can add to her food or water to prevent this problem. Do you have any suggestions so I can turn my yard from a mud pit back into grass? -- J.L., via e-mail

A: Over the years I've heard of all kinds of supplements "guaranteed" to fix this problem, from tomato juice to garlic to salt to vitamin C, along with all kinds of commercial products. I haven't seen good evidence that any of them work. Furthermore, some additions to your dog's food or water can increase the risk of illness for your pet, and that's never worth a greener lawn, in my opinion.

Probably the best solution is to set aside a part of your yard for your dog's potty needs, and train or restrict her to use this area exclusively. Replace the lawn in this area with decomposed granite, pea gravel or other kill-proof cover that will present a nice appearance and offer easy cleanup.

If it's not possible to split off part of the yard for your dog's potty area, it will help if (after your dog squats on your lawn) you take the hose and flush the area with lots of water to dilute the urine to non-damaging levels. You need to do this fairly soon after your dog urinates, and you cannot rely on every-other-day water from the sprinklers to help much.

Years ago, a dog-loving friend of mine with an exceptionally lovely yard came up with a solution that takes some effort, but worked well for her. She kept a fresh roll of sod growing in an out-of-the-way corner of her yard, and when a spot on the lawn turned started to turn yellow, she'd cut it out and replaced it with fresh sod. The maintenance was constant, but so was the green of her yard.

Q: We've sort of adopted a cat who started hanging around with our cats on the back porch where we feed them. The edges of the new cat's ears have a slight crust on them, and the ear looks dirty inside. What can I give her for this? -- S.P., via e-mail

A: Make an appointment with your veterinarian. Your cat likely has ear mites, nasty little pests that feed off the lining of the ear. Since the mites are highly contagious, there's a good chance other cats in your home are likewise infested.

Your veterinarian can give you medication to eradicate the mites. Be warned, though, that you must continue the medication as recommended even after it seems that the problem is under control. You may also need to take your pet in for a recheck. Ear mites can be very hard to get rid of, and if you stop medicating too soon, they'll stage a comeback.

While the cat is at the veterinarian's, don't neglect other preventive-care measures, such as neutering, testing and vaccinations as recommended. "Sort of" adoptions don't help much: Take full responsibility for your new pet.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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One thing I love about the return of nice weather -- dog washing moves outside for my two retrievers. No more soggy bathroom, no more drippy paw prints in the house. Clean dogs, without having to clean up the house afterward.

Drew the sheltie goes to a groomer monthly, because his thick coat is more trouble than I want to deal with these days. And Chase the toy spaniel is no trouble at all to bathe, since he's small enough to fit in the kitchen sink. But Heather and Benjamin -- healthy, strong and made for retrieving in all weather conditions -- are well-suited for outdoor bathing. They don't mind cold water at all, and as befitting their heritage, they choose to spend their lives as wet as possible. We've lived at the ocean and now live near a creek, which means I spend my life with dogs who are never more than a few hours past their last drenching.

Their coats are made for constant dampness, and are always glossy and sleek, but they don't smell as nice after the dousings as they do when bathed, so they still get regular soapings -- my choice, not theirs. They love water, but hate baths.

I love clean dogs, and so my pets all learn to tolerate baths. And over the years of bathing not only my own dogs, but also scores of filthy, matted fosters and the occasionally ripe guest pet, I've gotten pretty good at making the experience pleasant enough both for me and for the animals getting the sudsing.

Preparation makes the job so much easier.

Choose a soap made for dogs -- don't use dish soap or human shampoo, neither of which is formulated for maximum benefit for pets. There's no need for flea soap, though, since regular pet soap does just as good a job of killing fleas by washing them down the drain -- if there are any fleas on your pet at all, that is. These days your dog can live practically flea-free if you use the monthly "spot-on" treatments from your veterinarian -- Frontline or Advantage. Be sure to follow directions carefully and apply at prescribed intervals for the best results.

Footing is important, inside or out. If you're using the bathtub, put down a mat or towel so your pet won't slip. Outside, the lawn will give plenty of traction. A spray nozzle is also essential, since pouring dirty water back over a clean dog is counterproductive.

To prepare your dog, comb or cut out tangles or mats before the bath, (doing so later only makes it worse). Put a pinch of cotton just inside your dog's ears and a drop of mineral oil in each eye to help keep out the soap. (Don't forget to take out the cotton later, or you'll be wondering why your dog is ignoring you more than usual.)

Wet your dog thoroughly, then start shampooing, working up a good lather. The key to a good bath is a good rinse, since leftover soap will make the coat look dull and flaky. A cream rinse or detangler is a good idea, especially for silky or double-coated breeds, and must be followed by another thorough rinse for best results.

After your dog has shaken off all the water he can, towel him off and let him dry inside. Dogs who dry off clean stay cleaner longer, and that means you and your dog can avoid the next bath just a little bit longer.

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Recently I wrote about including pets in family disaster plans. Here's more information on that topic, tailored to the special concerns of the times and suggested by the Sacramento, Calif.-based United Animal Nations, which runs disaster-relief teams to assist animals worldwide.

The American Veterinary Medical Association has information on the affect of biochemical agents and infectious disease on its Web site, at www.avma.org/press/biosecurity/default.asp. The UAN Web site has additional information on anthrax and animals at www.uan.org/ears/anthrax.html along with general disaster-planning tips at www.uan.org/ears/tips.html.

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In times such as these, our pets are often the source of much appreciated and much needed comic relief. One person who clearly understands how funny animals can be is cartoonist Paul Gilligan, who produces the "Pooch Cafe" comic strip. The cafe alluded to is one where dogs come together to enjoy each other's company, and to make gentle fun of each other and of the humans in their lives.

To get a healthy dose of such good humor, check out Gilligan's collection of strips in "Pooch Cafe: All Dogs Naturally Know How to Swim" (Andrews McMeel, $11). As the owner of a dog who'd help a burglar carry out the silverware, I couldn't help but smile at the strip where the dog holds open the door for the crook, and refuses to fess up to it later with the police.

QUESTIONS FROM THE PACK

Q: I have a 5-month-old Maltese, and she isn't very interested in food. She's healthy and playful, but I'm worried she isn't getting her nutrition. I leave dry food down all the time. She waits until I add "goodies" such as broiled chicken breast. Any ideas? -- Y.C., via e-mail

A: Without meaning to, you've taught your puppy that food is always available, and that if she waits, something better will come along.

You've taught her to be finicky; now it's time to teach her to eat.

Don't keep food available at all times. It makes house-training more difficult and removes the power of food as a training tool. (Fresh water, on the other hand, should always be accessible.)

Give your pup a quiet place to eat with no distractions. A crate is ideal, but a small room with a baby gate across it will also do. Put the food down and leave your pup alone for 20 to 30 minutes. Then pick up the food, eaten or not, and give your pet no food until the next scheduled feeding. Repeat at every meal: a quiet space, a set time for eating, remove the remainder.

Don't worry if she misses a meal, or even a day's worth of meals. She won't starve. Above all: Do not, do not, do not give treats between meals, or add those "goodies" to the meals after she turns up her nose.

I doubt it will take more than a couple of days for your puppy to learn to eat promptly that which is set down in front of her.

Q: We recently put in a dog door to give our German shepherd access to the yard while we're at work. Because we don't want anyone letting her out, we put a lock on our gate.

We came home to find a rather terse notice from the gas company demanding access to our yard for the purpose of checking the meter. We're not worried about our dog bothering the meter readers -- she's very friendly -- but we don't trust the company to make sure the gate is closed after they go. Can you suggest a compromise? -- A.U., via e-mail

A: I can suggest several. But first, I have to note that even a friendly dog can be protective of property when the family's not home, and can thus be a danger to meter readers, mail carriers or anyone else who has legitimate business on your property. Bites happen, and it's your job to do everything you can to help prevent them.

Believe me, your utility is as concerned about this situation as you are, and will be happy to work with you on alternatives to keep your dog and its meter readers safe. Generally, you'll be able to choose from the following options:

-- Keep your pet indoors or penned when the meter reader is in your neighborhood. Your utility should be able to give you a schedule of the two or three days a month when they'll be in your area. (Because chaining tends to make dogs unhappy and aggressive, I don't recommend securing your pet in such a way.)

-- Ask your utility if it has a program that allows you to read your own meter. You should be able to put out a card for the reader, or even enter your reading on the company's Web site.

-- See if your utility can replace your meter with one that's equipped with a radio transmitter. If it's available, this is probably the best option, since it allows the meter reader to get your information without going near your yard.

Call your utility right away to see what's available, and choose the option that's best for the safety of your pet and of the company's meter readers.

Gina Spadafori is the award-winning author of "Dogs for Dummies," "Cats for Dummies" and "Birds for Dummies." She is also affiliated with the Veterinary Information Network Inc., an international online service for veterinary professionals. Write to her in care of this newspaper, or send e-mail to writetogina(at)spadafori.com. You can also read her frequently updated Web log or view her column archives at www.spadafori.com.

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