Dear Ilana and Jess: My kids want to look cool as they head back into school, but there are limits to what we can afford. How can I help them look their best without breaking the bank?

Dear Milo: We get variations of your question a lot. Thankfully, there’s plenty you can do to help your kids look (and feel) cool.

Start by guiding your kids to review their stock. Go through what they have to see what they actually need before you buy something new. Do they have 8 blue shirts? 100 t-shirts, but none of them work for a dressier occasion? 3 pairs of the same shoes? Know what they could use more or less of to help avoid buying more things that they’ll never wear (or even take the tag off of).

Stick to staples. Buy items that the kids can use time and time again, and mix and match with other items in their closet. Get tops and bottoms of similar styles and color combinations, so that they can coordinate them together easily. This maximizes the potential for variety in their wardrobe.

Go for quality over quantity. While it might be tempting to buy 10 shirts for the price of one, in the long run, the kids will probably get much more use out of one shirt that’s well-made. Plus, splurging on one, special item can help elevate a whole look (or wardrobe). Check the seams before you buy: they should be straight, neat, and should not look like they’ll fall apart as soon as you tug your sleeve. Try to stick to natural blends and fibers, because these materials will last longer.

Set a budget. Give your kids a spending limit and stick to it. If you’re going shopping, leave the plastic at home. Instead, bring a predetermined amount of cash so that you spend no more than you planned to. This will help the kids be decisive in-the-moment; they’ll learn to ask themselves; “Is this really worth the money?”

Shop at the right places and the right time. Vintage shopping can lead you to some great finds that take it easy on your wallet. If vintage stores aren’t commonplace in your area, try to stick to stores that have affordable options, or better yet, sales. If big expenses like the Apple Watch are on your list, see if you can get pre-used or older versions of those products. Just make sure you trust the seller and be sure to check the return policy.

Say This: “We’re going to be strategic about our shopping this year. First, let’s take stock of your closet and figure out what you do and don’t need. You can choose how you’d like to spend the money within the budget I give you; so think about some pieces you might want!”

Not That: “Don’t get too excited. We can only afford so much.”

Say This, Not That is based on the work of Cognition Builders: a global, educational company headed by Ilana Kukoff (Founder & CEO) and Jessica Yuppa Huddy (Chief Learning Officer). Everywhere from New York City to California to Shanghai to Zurich, the Cognition Builders team is called upon by A-list entertainers, politicians, CEOs, and CFOs to resolve the conflicts that upend everyday life. When their work is done, the families they serve are stronger than ever. With their new book, Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter Kukoff and Yuppa Huddy have selected the most common conversational mistakes parents make, and fixed them. For more information, please visit: https://cognitionbuilders.com. To purchase Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter visit: http://publishing.andrewsmcmeel.com/books/detail?sku=9781449488055.

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Dear Ilana and Jess: My kids dread the start of the year every September, even though ultimately both of them enjoy school. How can I help lower their anxiety? – Teri

Dear Teri: Back to School Blues are pretty common, but that doesn’t make them any easier. Thankfully, there are plenty of things you can do to help alleviate some of that stress.

Have your kids make a list of things they’re looking forward to next week, next month, and even next season. List items should be school-specific in some way; for example, a homecoming game or dance, a classroom Halloween party, reuniting with friends or a favorite teacher, etc. Focusing on all the good that is to come will help the kids remember what it is they enjoy and appreciate about school.

Make sure everyone is prepared. If you aren’t doing so already, create and implement a routine to organize your kids for the first week of school. For example, back-to-school shopping should be a fun ritual, but give your kids responsibility by having them print or write the items they need and check off the list as they go. The more in-control the kids feel, the more prepared they’ll feel, and, in turn, the less anxious they’ll be. Keep backpacks and school materials in a consistent location, and have the kids pack and check their bags the night before. Lunches should also be planned in advance.

Watch their language. While, “I hate school,” may seem innocuous and common, comments like that actually affect the way the kids think about and experience school. Give them the language to say what they really mean. For example, “I hate school,” can become, “I’m really nervous about going back to school.”

Finally, if you’re ever concerned about your child’s anxiety, consider seeking the support of a mental health professional.

Say This: “Instead of saying that you hate school, which I know you don’t, I want you to tell me what’s really bothering you. Try this: ‘I’m really nervous about going back to school.’”

Not That: “What are you worried about? Everything will be fine!”

Say This, Not That is based on the work of Cognition Builders: a global, educational company headed by Ilana Kukoff (Founder & CEO) and Jessica Yuppa Huddy (Chief Learning Officer). Everywhere from New York City to California to Shanghai to Zurich, the Cognition Builders team is called upon by A-list entertainers, politicians, CEOs, and CFOs to resolve the conflicts that upend everyday life. When their work is done, the families they serve are stronger than ever. With their new book, Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter Kukoff and Yuppa Huddy have selected the most common conversational mistakes parents make, and fixed them. For more information, please visit: https://cognitionbuilders.com. To purchase Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter visit: http://publishing.andrewsmcmeel.com/books/detail?sku=9781449488055.

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Dear Ilana and Jess: I’m starting my sophomore year of college. If I’m being honest, I am super excited to have my space and dorm back, but, I didn’t exactly organize it well last semester. How can I do better this time? – Erin

Dear Erin: You have a lot to keep track of in college and very little time to waste tracking it. Organization is a task that gets tossed to the wayside more often than not, and sometimes straightening up can feel like a needless (and mindless) chore. But to really create an organized life, you have to start with your living space. Here’s how.

Start from day 1. After lugging your entire life into the center of your dorm room, it’s tempting to leave it there to deal with some other time. Sadly, procrastination and organization are incompatible. To set off on the right track, don’t make straightening up a “do-it-tomorrow” task. Get yourself settled as soon as you get in. Place items in logical locations and keep like with like, to make it easier to remember where everything went. Keep the items you’ll be using the most in the most visible and accessible places.

Organize each “compartment” of your life. An organized room is one thing, an organized mind is another. Getting your space in order is the first step, but there’s plenty more where that came from. You’ll have syllabi for each of your classes. Before you start in on your homework, figure out what’s coming. Get a physical planner or electronic calendar, and plug in all the important due dates for major assignments as soon as you have them.

Practice makes perfect. Don’t just organize things once and leave it at that. Remember kindergarten, when you had to put things back where they belonged after you were done using them? It still applies. Make a habit of staying organized every day, and bookend the mornings and evenings with this habit. Take ten minutes at the beginning and end of every day to make sure everything is in its place, including your notes and homework.

Say This: “If I get my room organized today it will give me peace of mind and set the tone for the rest of the semester. It’s better in the long-run if I get everything sorted now.”

Not That: “I can always do it tomorrow.”

Say This, Not That is based on the work of Cognition Builders: a global, educational company headed by Ilana Kukoff (Founder & CEO) and Jessica Yuppa Huddy (Chief Learning Officer). Everywhere from New York City to California to Shanghai to Zurich, the Cognition Builders team is called upon by A-list entertainers, politicians, CEOs, and CFOs to resolve the conflicts that upend everyday life. When their work is done, the families they serve are stronger than ever. With their new book, Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter Kukoff and Yuppa Huddy have selected the most common conversational mistakes parents make, and fixed them. For more information, please visit: https://cognitionbuilders.com. To purchase Say This, Not That To Your Teenage Daughter visit: http://publishing.andrewsmcmeel.com/books/detail?sku=9781449488055.

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