Q: My 14-year-old daughter has hit the "boy crazy" stage. As a dad, I'm really dreading the whole dating thing as she gets a little older. How can I prepare both of us?

Jim: It's the age-old struggle for fathers with daughters -- I'll admit on this issue I'm a bit relieved I only had sons! My best suggestion is to teach your daughter the proper role of dating by frequently taking her out yourself.

Regardless of a daughter's age, going on a date with Dad has many benefits. For example, as a girl develops her identity, she often measures herself against impossible standards of "beauty" portrayed by Hollywood and/or social media influencers. You can have an immeasurably positive influence on her perception of herself just by spending time with her and affirming her.

Dating your daughter also allows you to model how a man should treat her. You show her she's valuable by making one-on-one time a priority, especially when you let her suggest activities she would like to do together. Your unconditional acceptance for who she is will build her self-esteem. You can also help her develop a sense of individuality by carefully listening to her and respecting her opinions (even if you don't fully agree). Most importantly, regularly dating your daughter keeps her heart open to you.

So, block out time in your schedule for frequent dates with your priceless daughter. It doesn't have to take all day, but make sure the time is special by limiting interruptions. The best way to ensure success in your daughter's future dating experience is to make sure it starts with Dad.

Q: My wife and I have two preschoolers in the house. It seems like we seldom connect anymore; she always talks about how tired she is after being with the kids all day. How can I reinforce our relationship?

Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President, Marriage & Family Formation: Remember this when you arrive home after your long, tiring day: your wife has had an equally long, tiring day. She needs two things: (a) adult conversation, including overt expressions of appreciation, and (b) an adult pair of hands to pitch in, take charge of the kids, handle dirty clothes or other debris, and do other things to lighten her load.

Beyond that, here are some "pro tips":

Don't expect to be cared for like another child in the house. Pick up your own toys and clothes.

Don't expect much sexual response when your wife is exhausted, especially if you haven't set the mood. As the saying goes, sex begins in the kitchen -- with meaningful conversation, acts of kindness and compliments, in addition to active work in helping reduce her to-do list.

Join in (or even take over) the process of getting the kids ready for bed. It helps you stay connected with them and also does wonders for your wife's frame of mind.

Maintain regular date nights -- whatever your imagination and budget can manage, whether it's a meal, a concert or just a walk. Focus on conversation and companionship. Make a point of keeping your wife current on your day's activities, and definitely find out about hers.

Take her away for a romantic weekend, or even dinner and an overnight stay, someplace where her daily responsibilities are suspended. With planning and creativity, this doesn't have to be expensive.

Call or text her during the day to simply say "I love you" and offer encouragement.

Flowers and gifts -- for "no particular reason" -- speak volumes.

The bottom line is that all relationships require constant investment from both parties involved. For more tips and resources to help your marriage thrive, visit FocusOnTheFamily.com/marriage.

Jim Daly is a husband and father, an author, and president of Focus on the Family and host of the Focus on the Family radio program. Catch up with him at www.jimdalyblog.com or at www.facebook.com/DalyFocus.

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Q: My husband recently retired from the military, and he's having disturbing flashbacks from combat duty. I've heard enough about post-traumatic stress disorder to be concerned. How can our family best support him?

Jim: Combat veterans have always been susceptible to PTSD, but it seems to be an increasingly frequent problem for today's servicemembers. It's easy to understand why many vets find it difficult to share their emotional pain -- in many ways they've been to the brink of hell and back, and they don't want to upset their families and friends by describing those experiences. They also usually assume that only those who have experienced combat can possibly understand the significance of their internal struggles. So, they stuff their feelings deep inside.

In many cases, the pain of any physical injuries a combat veteran may have sustained in the line of duty is far outweighed by the intensity of the emotional suffering they endure. Not to mention that psychological pain often manifests through physical or psychosomatic symptoms. Among other things, your husband's flashbacks reflect the very real connection that exists between body and mind.

For all these reasons, I would strongly suggest that your husband make an appointment to discuss his situation and condition with a qualified physician as soon as possible (if he hasn't already done so). It's possible that at least some of the issues he's dealing with can be mitigated through careful medication.

I'd also recommend that your entire family seek out the services of a licensed counselor. It's critical that you all walk through this experience together. Focus on the Family's Counseling Department can provide you with a free consultation and a list of qualified therapists practicing in your area; call 855-771-HELP (4357).

I'm grateful to your husband -- and you -- for serving, and I wish you both all the best.

Q: My child is entering the preteen years. I know I'm supposed to be doing things to help, but I'm not sure where to start. Do you have any advice?

Dr. Danny Huerta, Vice President, Parenting & Youth: "Just wait till you have a teenager!" I heard those words a lot when my kids were still young. My wife and I quickly discovered that while there are difficulties in every stage of parenting, the teenage years are full of new opportunities and new challenges.

Preteens and teens have many questions, but they don't always know how to ask about what's troubling them. That's why it's so important to provide trust, stability and direction as they enter this new stage of life. Here are some pointers for conversations with your preteen son or daughter.

What to Expect:

The preteen years are filled with rapid physical, emotional and mental development.

Adolescence brings a new and stronger desire to fit in, belong and find things they're good at doing.

The preteen years demand a lot from your child as they continue to discover who they have been created to be.

What You Can Start to Build:

Create intentional time for ongoing conversations about life, including key changes that your child will experience. Be prepared to answer questions about topics like sex, anatomy and relationships.

As they mature, they'll become more interested in friendships with the opposite sex. Take time to help create healthy boundaries for dating relationships by teaching key traits like humility, respect and gratitude.

Affirm your child's interests and hobbies. Reinforce that your care for them as a person is not dependent on their perfection. They need to learn how to pursue life -- imperfections, failures and all -- with the security that they're loved and have value.

For more tips and resources -- including our Launch into the Teen Years kit -- see FocusOnTheFamily.com/Parenting.

Jim Daly is a husband and father, an author, and president of Focus on the Family and host of the Focus on the Family radio program. Catch up with him at www.jimdalyblog.com or at www.facebook.com/DalyFocus.

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Q: My aging father has always been a proud man. He needs care now, and my wife and I are more than willing to take on that responsibility. But we don't want to crush his spirit. Do you have any advice?

Jim: Researchers say that most older people measure their personal worth by how well they meet three goals: 1) dependability; 2) ability to maintain close family ties; and 3) self-sufficiency. Aging individuals often don't want to reach out for assistance, have hired help in their homes or rely on government programs. They desire to do things independently to keep proving themselves responsible and dependable.

The key to honoring aging loved ones is encouraging them in these areas however possible. Here are some suggestions:

Recognize successes and skills. Honoring your father involves acknowledging him not only for who he is, but also for his abilities, talents and past achievements.

Reminisce. Help your aging loved one capture his personal history and pass it along to children and grandchildren. Preserve his memories and current interactions with family through video, photos and written accounts.

Reinvent memories. Celebrate everything! Affirmations of love and life remind elderly people how much they are appreciated.

Remember old friends -- and make new ones. Friendships keep people engaged while helping to process loss and combat feeling of worthlessness or depression. Do everything you can to facilitate your dad's access to friends by phone, email, "snail" mail and regular visits.

Renew energy with regular exercise. Walking, swimming and other light exercise improves circulation and keeps endorphins -- the "feel-good hormones" -- flowing through the blood system.

Seek opportunities for senior volunteers. Many nonprofit organizations don't just provide a place for seniors to volunteer -- they actively need volunteer assistance to carry out their mission.

Encourage latent talents. If possible, nudge your father toward developing hobbies like painting, writing, drawing, woodworking or even computers. Probe his interests until you see his eyes light up -- then find ways to equip and help him pursue those ideas.

Q: I'm a single mother with four children. My kids need a dad and I'd love to have a husband again. I think I'm ready to start dating -- but I'm terrified that another marriage will crash like my last one. Help!

Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President, Marriage & Family Formation: I feel for you, and I've heard these same thoughts from many single moms. Finding the right husband and a good father for your kids could mean a whole new future for all of you. But the wrong person could make the challenges you're facing even worse.

With that in mind, I'd suggest moving forward very carefully. Dating when you have children can be complicated. Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment, so it's never something to rush into. Let relationships develop naturally. Ask your friends and family to watch closely and help you recognize potential character flaws about the men you date that you might not otherwise see.

Also, the setting matters. At the risk of sounding patronizing, you're more likely to meet a suitable person at church rather than in a bar.

Finally, remember that it's very tough for children when a parent cycles through one relationship after another. So, if you choose to date, be careful to protect your children's hearts. If possible, get to know the man well before introducing the kids. If you do get married someday, he will be committing not only to you but also to your children. It's worth the investment of going slow to find someone who will treat them -- and you -- with the love and respect you all deserve.

We have plenty of resources for single parents, and for relationships in general, at FocusOnTheFamily.com.

Jim Daly is a husband and father, an author, and president of Focus on the Family and host of the Focus on the Family radio program. Catch up with him at www.jimdalyblog.com or at www.facebook.com/DalyFocus.

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