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Teach Children Money Management at an Early Age

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | January 7th, 2013

Q: Our family overspends, and our 2013 resolution is to budget! Our kids are 15, 13 and 6. Are there materials to help teach them how to manage money better than their father and I do?

A: According to the Financial Educators Council, most parents don't talk to their kids about money because they don't feel they know enough to guide them. Yet learning good financial habits early helps young people avoid common mistakes, such as accumulating too much credit card debt. Young adults ages 20 to 25 make up the largest group filing personal bankruptcy, so helping your children become savings-savvy will give them a good foundation for money management.

While learning to budget is important, make financial literacy your goal, says Gail Karlitz, author of "Growing Money: A Complete Investing Guide for Kids" (Price Stern Sloan, 2010). "Financial literacy is knowing how money works," she says. "It's a set of skills to help you earn it, manage it, invest it to earn more money, spend it and donate it to help others."

Karlitz likes to use allowances to teach children to manage money. "Don't tie allowances to household chores -- those should be done without pay as part of being a member of the household," she says. Pick an amount you feel comfortable with. Many parents give a dollar a week per year of age.

With your family, discuss needs (food, clothes, housing), wants (treats, entertainment, things we like but aren't essential), goals (things we must save for, such as a new car) and giving (church collections, presents or charity), says Karlitz.

Explain to your kids that, as parents, you will take care of the family's needs while they are growing up. Have your two older children keep notebooks with sections for their needs, wants, goals and giving. List what they want to include in each and estimate how much of their allowance will go to it.

Involve your older children in a similar discussion of the whole family's needs, wants, goals and giving. The Jump$tart Coalition for Personal Financial Literacy has a simple online calculator called "reality check" to make this a fun learning exercise. Plug amounts into key expense categories to see the relationship between your spending and your income. The exercise will not only help your family create a framework for budgeting, it will give your teens a snapshot of what they have to earn to maintain the lifestyle they envision. (For more information, go to jumpstart.org/reality-check.html. Check the site's map for financial education programs in your area.)

Your 6-year-old can join in too. A new nonfiction series called "Smart Start: Money" (Red Chair Press, 2013) provides a good introduction to financial literacy. The four stories -- "Super-Smart Shopping," "Kids Making Money," "Saving for the Future" and "Sharing With Others" -- align nicely with the concepts your older kids will be discussing.

"Smart Start: Money" author Mattie Reynolds says, "Young children can easily grasp the concepts of earning, saving, spending and sharing money if they read about them in the context of their daily lives." (Go to redchairpress.com to find the four-book set.)

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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Toy Drive Motivates Family to Foster Charitable Giving

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | December 31st, 2012

Q: My 7- and 8-year old sons participated in a holiday toy drive. It made a great impression and they want to do more. How can I nurture their desire to help others without it becoming a full-time job?

A: Parents work hard to help kids develop kindness, empathy and a motivation to act charitably -- to do things that benefit other individuals, groups or society as a whole. Kid-generated projects can "grow" these skills quickly.

"Neuroscientists say something goes on in the brain that makes us feel good when we help other people. When kids learn to lend a hand, they are motivated to do more," says California counselor Marissa Gehley, founder of KNOW (Kids Need Our Wisdom) consulting.

Learning to give back shapes a child's life. "It builds character and encourages personal responsibility that helps them succeed in adulthood," says Jan Helson, co-author of "The Global Game Changers" (Pixel Entertainment, 2012), a kids' book on doing for others without expecting anything in return (theglobalgamechangers.com).

Your sons' project should fill a genuine need, have a realistic plan for execution, and be something the young organizers are passionate enough to see through.

"Start small. If it works, expand it," Gehley advises.

How do you identify a genuine need? "News stories are a great way for children to learn about challenges and spot opportunities to help," says Helson, especially when young people are part of the solution. Google "kids making a difference," and you'll find many inspiring stories.

Your sons' project doesn't have to take over your life. Once it gets rolling, folks will join in. For example, Kayleigh Crimmins, a police officer's daughter, noticed that some police dogs lacked bulletproof vests because departments couldn't afford them. She started Kids for K9s to raise funds so more dogs could have vests. Jaylen Arnold, a bullying victim featured in "The Global Game Changers," started Jaylen's Challenge to educate kids about the effects of bullying. Others joined to help both organizations grow.

Consider integrating your sons' effort into an existing framework. "Local service clubs and youth groups like to support young people's good ideas," says Gehley. "Many schools have community service programs to tap into."

Visit websites for charities such as Goodwill, the Red Cross and Habitat for Humanity. Identify the need that the organization fulfills, and discuss with your boys whether there's something they can do to support it. For example, many kids participate in the program Trick-or-Treat for UNICEF. (The website unicef.org offers videos of children helped by Trick-or-Treat's donations.) Is there a way to expand the program in your community? Or, can your boys help collect, sort and donate gently used clothes, small appliances and toys to benefit a local charity's thrift shop?

These conversations are important, says Gehley, especially at this time of year when parents want to talk about the spirit of giving, not just spending. The Central Carolina Community Foundation created a card game, Talk About Giving, to help families have this conversation. For more information, go to yourfoundation.org.

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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Kids Need Their Routines After a Tragedy

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | December 24th, 2012

Q: We live far from Connecticut, yet the horrible tragedy there freaked out my 6-year-old daughter. The TV reports upset her so much I kept her home from school. Her principal called and said it would be better if she were in school. How does that make sense?

A: Your daughter's principal is right. Psychologists say one of the things kids need most after a tragedy is a return to a comforting and familiar routine. This is why UNICEF rushes "School in a Box" kits to places where children are dislocated by natural disasters. The rhythm of school "helps foster a sense of normalcy in times of crisis," says Christine Hoier, education technical assistant for UNICEF.

Schools are one of the safest places for children and youth during the school day and an important place for them to receive support and return to normal routines, says Kathy Cowen of the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP).

With children on holiday break, think about ways to establish reassuring routines at home, too, while being alert to kids' concerns and questions. "Be a good listener and observer," says Cowen.

NASP offers these guidelines:

-- Make time to talk. Let your child's questions guide you as to how much information to provide. Give a clear, developmentally appropriate explanation.

-- Provide ways for children to express their emotions. Good activities include writing letters, making collages, playing music, dancing and journaling. Younger children may need concrete activities such as imaginative play or drawing pictures to help them express feelings when they can't find ways to talk about them.

-- Cut down on TV. Kids don't really need to know every detail, nor see every "breaking news" brief. Take care in your conversations in front of children. 

-- Model resilience and compassion. How you react to this tragedy can shape the way your children react and influence their perceptions of safety.

-- Don't dwell on the worst possibilities. Although there is no absolute guarantee that something bad will never happen, it is important that your daughter understand the difference between the possibility of something happening and the probability that it will affect her school. Find more suggestions as nasponline.org.

"Six-year-olds are curious and ask pointed questions about death," says Delores Seamster, Ph.D., a retired Dallas principal who now volunteers in an elementary school. "Last week, along with the tragic news from Connecticut, we dealt with the sudden death of one of our own precious students. In helping students cope, we learned that their biggest concern was that their classmate had not disappeared, that he was somewhere. Many parents drew on their faith to reassure their children that he was still with us -- just in a better place. You could see the lines of worry vanish from their faces."

It's not the school's job to use the tools of faith, says Seamster, but parents can. "Don't dwell on the tragedy over the holidays. Make it a time to share love and assurance. Your daughter will return to school more resilient in the new year." 

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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