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Daughter's Nightmares Interfere With School Performance

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | August 27th, 2012

Q: Our kindergarten-age daughter has nightmares. When she wakes up from one, it's so disruptive that we let her stay in our bedroom. Her teacher reports that she dozes in class. (There are no naps.) We try to schedule eight hours of sleep, but she's hard to settle at bedtime. Will she outgrow this pattern?

A: A change in routine, such as going to full-day kindergarten, can cause sleep disruptions. Most kids don't simply grow out of poor sleep patterns, so be proactive.

"Sleep problems are rarely (with few exceptions) part of a normal phase that must be waited out," says Dr. Richard Ferber, author of "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" (Fireside, 2006).

First, recognize that healthy sleep has a big impact on school performance. Studies show that sleep-deprived kids have trouble with focus and memory and may be more aggressive and prone to obesity. Think about sleep this way, suggests Dr. Marc Weissbluth, author of "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" (Ballantine, 2005).

"Sleep is the power source that keeps your mind alert and calm," he says. "Every night and at every nap, sleep recharges the brain's battery."

Second, establish a longer sleep schedule and stick with it seven nights a week. The National Sleep Foundation (sleepfoundation.org) suggests that 5- to 12-year-old children need 10 to 11 hours of sleep each night to function well at school.

Third, prepare your daughter for quality sleep. Limit caffeine and chocolate before bed. Make sure the bedroom is comfy, peaceful and the right temperature. Remove distractions, such as TV. Wind down with a bedtime story.

Fourth, tackle nightmares head on.

"These fears are very real to a child," says Sharon Cramer, author of "Marlow and the Monster" (B&F Publishing, 2012), a tale that helps kids cope with imaginary creatures.

Cramer's suggestions for curtailing nightmares include: eliminating violent books, movies and cartoons; putting the mattress on the floor if your daughter is afraid of what's under the bed; keeping a soft light on and having a lit path to the bathroom; and making sure your daughter is surrounded by her favorite stuffed animals. Tack a sign on the door that says "Only Nice Monsters Allowed," and enjoy stories that debunk traditional monster fears, like "James and the Giant Peach."

"My granddaughter and I watched 'Monsters, Inc.' several times until she reframed in her mind what a monster is: a cuddly creature that protects little girls," says Cramer.

Fifth, try not to invite your daughter to your bed, advises Cramer.

"Stay with her in her bedroom until she's comforted and back to sleep," she says. "Letting her retreat to your room sets a bad routine that is hard to break and only reinforces that her own bedroom is to be feared. Next morning, tell her about what scared you as a child and how you learned it was your imagination and not real."

Teachers surveyed by University of Virginia cognitive scientist Daniel Willingham say that if they could magically make parents do one thing to help children succeed academically, it would be to make sure they come to school having had a good night's sleep.

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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Kids' Interest in Reading Doesn't Have to Stop at Books

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | August 20th, 2012

Q: My 10- and 11-year-old boys enjoyed Summer Reading Camp, but now that it's over, I can't get them to pick up a book. I want them to keep reading until school starts. Any thoughts?

A: While it would be super if all young readers spent the summer with their noses in books, rethink what you consider reading: Will they pick up a magazine? A Kindle? An iPad? Will they research a topic on a website?

"Students don't have to devour novels to keep up their skills," says Jonathan Rosenbloom, an editor at TIME For Kids Books. "In fact, with more emphasis on informational texts in the new Common Core Standards, getting kids to read more nonfiction should be a summer goal."

Rosenbloom suggests these strategies:

First, get your sons to do the family reading. If you are planning a weekend trip, have them research the route, write an itinerary, find the cheapest gas, chart places to stop and so on. If you are hungry for peanut butter cookies, have them comb your cookbooks and the Internet for a great recipe, then make the shopping list, bake the cookies and write a recipe review. If you are searching for a movie the family will enjoy, ask them to identify three and read the reviews to you.

"The goal is to show them how we use reading and writing each day to find information, make decisions, be productive and add pleasure to our lives," says Rosenbloom.

Second, think beyond the book. The price of e-readers has dropped considerably, and there are thousands of tween titles available. Many kids also enjoy reading on their smartphones and tablet devices. Talk to them about how you will monitor their purchases, and give them a budget for downloading the reading of their choosing.

Third, stock up on "quick reads," so when you have a few minutes, you can enjoy reading with them. Children's almanacs are great sources of awesome info: The 2013 editions of the World Almanac for Kids, the TIME For Kids Almanac and the National Geographic Kids Almanac were all recently released.

Fourth, take your boys to yard sales to stock up on reading material. Among the used books, atlases, encyclopedias and magazines, Rosenbloom says, "Your sons might find an issue of Popular Science on the possibility of alien life that leads to hours of related reading."

Fifth, as you browse your own news sources each day, save and print articles you think would interest your boys and then read the articles together. A profile of a sports figure might lead them to read that person's biography; a news article on a record-size Asian carp will have them looking up other invasive species. Before you know it, your boys will have good topics teed up for research reports when school starts.

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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School Lists Help Teachers Provide Supplies for All Kids

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | August 13th, 2012

Q: I have the school supply lists for two of my three kids, and I am waiting for the third. Each year they get longer. One teacher wants five sticks of one brand of glue. When did teachers get so picky? What's wrong with generics? Why are parents responsible for so much of a room's general supplies? It's really expensive!

A: The days of grabbing a few pencils, a notebook and an eraser to stuff into a backpack are gone. School supply lists have grown longer and more specific in the past few years.

"Today, lists supplement class curriculum needs, such as art supplies, and provide for cleanup and classroom hygiene," says Tim Sullivan, president of PTO Today, an organization that supports parent-teacher groups. "Tissues and paper towels are among the top-five most requested school supply items."

Why is this falling on parents?

"Two reasons," says Sullivan, a former school administrator. "One, school budgets are stretched more tightly than ever. The average teacher spends nearly $500 of her own money (each year). In years past, they bought basic supplies; now they're purchasing books and resources to fill in gaps in learning materials.

"Two, we all want our kids' classrooms to have the supplies needed for a great, healthy year. You may send your child to school with tissues, but others may forget. Teachers appreciate it when parents pitch in on the basics."

Educators put a lot of thought into their lists. When it comes to generics versus brands, "teachers have preferences based on experience," says Sullivan. "Sometimes a certain brand fits exactly into a cubby, is more reliable, or works better for a project.

"Many teachers bundle supplies into shared buckets for all kids, so having just one brand helps eliminate dust-ups over who gets which glue stick. If it's a supply that's clearly just for your child, such as a backpack or a pencil sharpener, you're OK going generic."

Before you head out to shop, check TeacherLists.com, where you might find lists from all three of your children's teachers. (Teachers who post their lists here are eligible for free classroom supplies.) You can print the lists out or access them from your smartphone right at the store.

"Back-to-school is now the second-biggest retail event of the year (after the December holidays), and the good news is that stores want your business!" says Sullivan. "Sales on school supplies abound like never before, especially on common brand items.

"Check the Web and Sunday circulars through Labor Day, and you'll find one door-buster after another. Whether it's penny notebooks or half-off hand sanitizer, careful shoppers can save big."

If you can't afford the clothes and supplies needed for each child, most schools can direct you to funds through PTOs, area church or service groups, or local foundations. Call the school secretary to see what may be available in your district.

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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