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Introduce Kids to Various Colleges on Family Road Trip

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | June 18th, 2012

Q: We're traveling from Tennessee to Colorado for a reunion. My husband and I didn't go to college, but we want our two daughters to have this opportunity. We hope to visit colleges en route to inspire them. One will be a freshman and the other will be starting middle school. Is it too soon for them to visit colleges?

A: No, not at all. Weaving college visits into a vacation is a great way to give your daughters a snapshot of life on campus without the pressure of applying.

"It's never too early to open kids' eyes to the potential of college," says Jose Ruben Olivares, the principal at Think College Now, a college-focused public elementary school in Oakland, Calif.

Visits ignite what Olivares calls "college knowledge" -- setting goals, thinking about careers and developing study skills to get grades required for acceptance.

The secret to inspiring your daughters is keeping the visits short and informal.

"Don't pack the trip full of tours where your middle grader listens to a stream of data such as what the average GPA of the incoming freshman class is," says Sally Reed, an editor at College Bound (www.collegeboundnews.com), a resource for guidance counselors and parents. "Your goal is to whet their appetites and show them the range of different colleges. That's best done by short visits, researched ahead of time so you can hit the hot spots, and move on."

Where to start? Using a current college guide, find schools along the way that excel in subjects of interest to your daughters. Call the admissions office. Are facilities such as a music hall, pool or student union open to visitors? Are student-led tours offered? What events are scheduled while you're there? Many universities have summer programs for high school students; speaking with peer participants might interest your daughters. Research alumni: Who attended that the girls have heard of?

Let's say you're headed across I-70. Check out the University of Missouri at Columbia, a great college town. Sheryl Crow, Jon Hamm and Kate Capshaw are alumni. Mizzou's campus has a botanical garden with 42,000 plants and trees. The university offers degree programs in 280 fields. Its Columbia enrollment is just north of 33,000.

Compare that to Stephens College, also in Columbia. This small, women's residential institution is known for individualized attention in fields of film, design, theater, interior design and equestrian studies. There's even pet-friendly housing if your daughter doesn't want to leave her kitty behind.

Those two stops alone will show your girls the choices open to them. Just remember that it's a vacation to open eyes and see possibilities, says Reed.

"Don't talk about grades, test scores, SATs and applications," she says. "Just enjoy the campuses."

If you have a good experience, stop at the college bookstore. Get a pennant for a bedroom wall or college sweatshirts for your daughters' soccer practice.

"We have banners from nearly every college in the nation on our school's walls," Olivares says. "These daily reminders encourage students to aspire to college."

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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Chess, Gardening Good After-School Programs for Kids

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | June 11th, 2012

Q: Our district needs good after-school activities. A group of us want to start two clubs that use volunteer knowledge, offer cross-age learning, don't require expensive equipment and get kids away from their digital devices. Any suggestions?

A: How about chess and gardening? After-school coordinators I spoke with say communities often have passionate chess players and gardeners who like to pass on their knowledge. Both hobbies have good track records in schools and national organizations that can provide resources and models.

Chess is gaining in popularity in schools. The motto of the United States Chess Federation (USCF), "Chess makes kids smart," is part of the appeal.

New Jersey has added chess to its elementary school curriculum. Oregon's Chess for Success (www.chessforsuccess.org) points to research that shows chess can boost math and reading skills and improve critical thinking. Chess for Success Executive Director Julie Young says kids learn life skills, too, such as impulse control, delayed gratification, strategy and long-term planning.

Kids as young as first grade can learn to enjoy the game. Check out the Scholastic link on the USCF's website: www.uschess.org.

School gardens are popping up everywhere because they're wonderful places for hands-on lessons in a variety of subject areas and offer great volunteer projects to bring together community members of all ages. Two teachers at Park Avenue Elementary, in the North Bellmore (N.Y.) School District, launched a school garden that "grew out of our concern that children's outdoor interaction is diminishing," says Robin Obey, kindergarten teacher.

"Now," she says, "parents see their kids not only growing but tasting fresh foods such as radishes, lettuces, spinach and herbs!"

Obey and art teacher Jill Skelly secured $2,000 from the Bellmore Lion's Club for raised beds. The garden is used throughout the day. Obey says teachers have taught writing workshops, poetry, art, science and math in the garden.

"Kids are very excited to be there!" she says.

This spring's crops were so plentiful that kids participated in a "Grow to Give" program, with harvests donated to local food banks.

The folks at the National Gardening Association (NGA) know what works with young gardeners. NGA's program, KidsGardening: Helping Young Minds Grow (www.kidsgardening.org), offers tips, lesson plans to integrate into the curriculum and ways to connect with master gardeners in your area.

Do your due diligence when bringing in volunteers you don't know. "Districts have processes in place to vet folks working with students, such as finger printing and background checks. Follow it and explain why it's necessary," says counselor Marissa Gehley, founder of KNOW (Kids Need Our Wisdom) consulting.

"And remember, too, that just because someone is a passionate hobbyist doesn't mean they make a good coach," she says. "A gardener who freaks out because someone spilled the pumpkin seeds should become your technical advisor, not the person who shows kindergarteners how to sow them."

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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Many Factors Are Involved When Placing Kids With Teachers

A+ Advice for Parents by by Leanna Landsmann
by Leanna Landsmann
A+ Advice for Parents | June 4th, 2012

Q: I want my second-grade son to have a specific teacher next fall. The school has a "don't ask" policy, but I think she'll be good for my son. How should I make the request?

A: This is a hot topic this time of year. Some parents try to get their kids assigned to teachers who have reputations as the "best," "nicest," "toughest," "most experienced," "most traditional," "easygoing" -- whatever attribute a parent thinks will enhance a child's learning. Other parents wouldn't think of making such a request. They view part of growing up as gaining the confidence to thrive in unknown situations.

Before you ask, learn how your school makes class assignments and list specific reasons why you want this teacher for your son.

"While the general trend is to not take parent requests, it is usually not a hard and fast rule," says Una Hukill, the principal of Beacon Cove Intermediate School, an elementary school in Jupiter, Fla., that is one of the state's highest-rated. "If a parent truly has a strong reason that they believe a particular teacher is a good match for their child, many principals will take that into account."

Yet most parents don't make a good case. Insisting to a principal that "my cousin said to ask for Mrs. Smith because she is wonderful" isn't enough to influence placement, says Hukill.

Hukill thinks it's important for parents to understand how placement decisions are made and the factors considered.

"When making assignments in our school, we take into account a child's learning style, performance and strengths," she says. "We strive for a balance of boys and girls and a range of academic and behavioral levels. We separate children who may not be good together, either because their personalities clash or because they are best friends and can distract one another. If a parent knows that a specific teaching style or characteristic has motivated their child in the past, we really appreciate knowing about it when we make up the class lists.

"A great match can make all the difference in a child's life!"

Be thoughtful and specific in your request. Describe your son. What kind of a learner is he? What does he enjoy? What frustrates him? What is his temperament like? What type of behavior does he exhibit in various situations? Say why a certain teacher's style or philosophy would be a good match for him.

Not every teacher is a good fit for every child, observes Hukill.

"Just because a child had a great experience with one teacher does not necessarily mean that another child with a different personality or educational needs will have a similar experience," she says.

While parents generally base requests on experience or the parent grapevine, there is increasingly available empirical data on individual teacher effectiveness. Stanford University professor Eric Hanushek has studied it and found that students with a teacher in the top 5 percent gained a year and a half's worth of learning. Those students with teachers in the bottom 5 percent gained only half a year's worth. Look for data that might support your request.

(Do you have a question about your child's education? Email it to Leanna@aplusadvice.com. Leanna Landsmann is an education writer who began her career as a classroom teacher. She has served on education commissions, visited classrooms in 49 states to observe best practices, and founded Principal for a Day in New York City.)

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