DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was invited to a wedding before the pandemic broke out, and I accepted the invitation. Then when the couple found out that they would not be able to have that wedding, they decided to have one on Zoom.
Well, when it came time for the wedding, I sat in front of my computer, logged into the account and waited -- and waited and waited -- for them to start. Forty-five minutes later, still no wedding.
Now what I want to know is, do I have the right to be upset? I didn’t say anything to them because I didn’t want to ruin their special day, but I did respond “yes” to the invite and sent them a wedding card and cash.
I just thought they should have made sure we were going to be able to celebrate with them. I guess in the end, they didn’t really care if they shared the day with us at all. I’m feeling very hurt.
GENTLE READER: If you have never had a computer glitch, Miss Manners congratulates you. Everyone else has, and some may even have learned not to take others’ such problems personally.
Why would anyone, no matter how callous, cut a Zoom guest list? It is not as though it would enable them to avoid feeding you.
Please give your friends the benefit of the doubt. It would be gracious of you to express regret to the couple that you missed the wedding, and ask if they would let you see any pictures or videos of the event.