DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am writing on behalf of a not-for-profit organization. We often have donations made in memory of someone, and we send their families a letter notifying them of the donation.
A young man in our community passed away, and his parents are no longer together. Should we send a donation notification letter to the young man’s mother, father, or one to each of them?
GENTLE READER: One to each. That way, they both have the opportunity to acknowledge the donation. Especially during this tragic time, Miss Manners feels strongly that it would be doing the parents a particular kindness not to give the impression that one parent was better liked than the other.