Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Do I Have to Open the Door for Everyone?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am invited to a 50th birthday luncheon for a girlfriend, and the invite says, “no gifts, please.” What can I do instead?

GENTLE READER: Bring your most winning smile.

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