DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm a high school teacher facing a challenging situation with one of my students, and I'm at a loss for how to improve our relationship. Despite my best efforts to make a positive and supportive classroom environment, it seems like this particular student and I just can't seem to see eye to eye. Our interactions are often tense, with disagreements arising over assignments, classroom behavior and communication. I've tried to provide constructive feedback and guidance, but it feels like my efforts are met with resistance or disregard. I can sense that the student is feeling unmotivated in my class, and it pains me to see them struggle. However, I'm not sure how to bridge the gap and establish a more positive relationship with them. I want to create a learning environment where all students feel valued and supported, but I'm unsure of where to start with this particular student. How should I address our differences and ensure a positive environment in the classroom? -- Connecting With a Student
DEAR CONNECTING WITH A STUDENT: Do your best to learn more about this student’s life. Learn what the student’s family is like, where and how the student lives, what challenges exist outside the classroom, etc. Speak to other teachers who may have had this student in their class. Talk to the guidance counselor at school, and ask for strategies to help reach this student. You can also send the student to the guidance counselor to be a sounding board.
It seems that trust is an issue between you. Don’t give up. Emphasize to the student that what you want most is to help them learn and grow. Ask what they would value toward that goal. How do they like to learn? What can you do to support their education? Asking may unlock answers.