DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently discovered that a former colleague of mine has expressed interest in dating my adult daughter. This colleague has known my daughter since she was a young child, so I feel extremely uncomfortable about this situation -- and a little angry. My daughter is in her late 20s now, so the decision is ultimately up to her, but even if they were to hit it off, I know I’d never be OK with it. He is quite a bit older than she is, and it just rubs me the wrong way. Am I wrong for feeling this way? -- Stay Away
DEAR STAY AWAY: Step back a moment and think about your colleague. What redeeming qualities does this man have as a person? What do you know about his relationship history? Has he ever done anything untoward regarding your daughter? Did he come to you first to express interest in her before asking her out? Assess as much as you can about him and his character. It is understandably unnerving for this to be happening, but you are not in control of this. If this man seems to be an honorable person, stand back and see how things unfold. You can tell him of your reservations and warn him not to hurt your daughter.