DEAR HARRIETTE: I'll be moving across the country soon, and my female best friend really wants to make the drive with me for our last little adventure together. I have to transport some heavy items, and my friend and I aren't the strongest or the most agile. I can’t afford movers at the moment, so it would just be a move-in crew of two. I have a large, strong male friend who offered to make the drive with me and help me move instead. I can bring only one person. I could really use my male friend’s help, but there’s nothing I want more than to spend this trip with my girl best friend. What should I do? -- Tough Decision
DEAR TOUGH DECISION: Now is a time to be practical. You need to bring your strong friend with you for this move. When you reach your destination, it will not be fun or effective to be unpacking with someone who does not have the physical strength or stamina to do the job, especially when you have an alternative before you.
Talk to your friend and explain the situation. Think about another time when you might be able to have an adventure with her. Just because you are moving, it does not mean the end of your interactions with each other. Position it like that, and start planning for your next special time together.