DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I go about telling my roommate that I no longer want to room with her because she snores too loudly? Our apartment lease is almost up, and we need to decide if we want to live together again and renew it. She told me she definitely wants to room together again because I was such a great roommate. She was, too. She does a really good job at cleaning up after herself and respecting my boundaries.

The big issue at hand is that she snores loudly at night, and we share a bedroom. I have lost hours of sleep because her snoring is unbearable, and I have been exhausted many times because of her. I wouldn’t consider myself a light sleeper in the slightest, either; her snoring is just that loud. How do I broach this topic lightly, as I don’t want to hurt her feelings? -- Can’t Sleep

DEAR CAN’T SLEEP: Is there any way that you can get a bigger apartment with two bedrooms? That could solve your problem. You two enjoy living together, aside from the snoring. Being in separate rooms could resolve that and help you to stay together. Talk to your roommate. Tell her the truth and recommend the solution of finding a new place to live. If neither of you wants to do that, agree to part ways. Then you will have to decide if you stay at your current location and find a new roommate or start the whole process over again.

Can you avoid hurting your roommate’s feelings? You can be kind and compassionate when you tell her. But in the end, you have to take care of yourself too. Your solution of two bedrooms shows you aren’t rejecting her. You just need some space.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I need some guidance when it comes to managing my finances. I am fortunate enough to have found a living situation where my rent is quite low, but despite this, I still find myself struggling to make ends meet. Living paycheck to paycheck has become the norm for me, and I can't seem to break free from this cycle. Do you have any tips or advice on how I can become better with money? Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated. -- Struggling

DEAR STRUGGLING: Many people take on part-time jobs to help save money. You may want to consider taking on a project or finding a job on the weekends or in the evenings where you can earn some extra cash. If you save all of that money over a period of time, you will be able to create a nest egg for yourself. Yes, it takes energy and time, but it is worth it.

You can also survey your possessions and see if you can sell anything. Cook for yourself more than you eat out. Don’t buy anything that you don’t absolutely need. All of these little things add up to money in the bank.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: A few weeks ago, my friend had an extreme anxiety or panic attack that had me really frightened. We had to rush her to urgent care, and for a moment, I thought she was having a stroke. Although she was released from the hospital later, we haven't discussed it since. She seemed really embarrassed by the whole ordeal. I'm concerned for her well-being, and I'm unsure of how to bring up the subject without embarrassing her further. How do I ensure that she’s seeking help for these issues without being invasive? -- Very Concerned

DEAR VERY CONCERNED: There are no easy answers for how you can be there for your friend. My research suggests that you should not press her about the situation, but you can show her that you are there to support her in any way that you can. It is OK to ask her how she’s feeling. Be sure to listen well. Don’t interrupt her. Let her share whatever is on her heart. Do not try to fix her or her problems. If you don’t understand what she’s going through, don’t say that you do. Instead, you can be honest and say that you wish you understood, but you love her and want to help even though you cannot imagine what she’s going through.

Unless your friend is exhibiting behavior that makes you concerned for her safety, let her be. If she brings up her treatment, you can talk about it, but you shouldn’t introduce that topic now. Just be there for her, as present as she will allow you to be. For more ideas go to: hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am almost 20, and I do not have a driver’s license or permit yet. I am from New York City. It is illegal to drive in the city until you are 18, so I did not see the point in getting a permit that I was not going to be able to use. Now that I am in college, all of my friends have cars, and I cannot get around on public transportation like I am used to at home. Going away to school made me realize the importance of being able to drive. It would save me a lot of time and money on ride share services.

I am trying to get my license before I go back to school, but with such a busy summer, I am not sure that it is possible. When my friends and I were staying in the dorms at school, we did not need cars that often, but now that we will live in apartments relatively far from each other and our classes, I feel like a weak link in not being able to drive when all of my friends have had cars for three to four years. Do you think that I should rush to get my license or take my time in learning everything so that I avoid future accidents? -- Non-Driver

DEAR NON-DRIVER: If driving is important enough to you, you will make it a priority. You are already seeing that your needs change depending on where you live. Some New Yorkers never learn to drive because it isn’t necessary. If you currently live in a town that requires driving, equip yourself. Interrupt your fun to prepare for your future.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been going to tons of parties on the weekends, sometimes with the same people. After a while, I have come to realize that most of us are telling the same stories over and over again. It’s either bragging about our children, complaining about our spouses or talking about how expensive our lives are. I’m sure there has to be something else to talk about. How can I encourage the group to switch up the conversation a bit? I like these people, but I’m bored by the discussion. -- One Note

DEAR ONE NOTE: This is why there are book clubs! Seriously, sometimes you have to introduce new ideas so that people can change the narrative. On one hand, you enjoy being together. On the other, it can start to feel like deja vu. Consider starting a book club where you and your friends read something and chat about it.

The same goes for choosing new adventures that you do with a group or by yourself. You can then come together and report about your new discoveries. For example, you can go to wine tastings at local vineyards or visit art openings where you get to meet the artist. Research happenings in your area and venture out to do some of those things. This will give you fresh stories to share with your friends.

DEAR HARRIETTE: My wife dresses very sexily. She often wears sheer clothing that reveals the curves of her body. I like it, but I have noticed that some people in our friend group do not. What’s weird is that the very people I see saying things about her behind her back will wear similar clothing. The main difference is that my wife is a curvy woman, and these other women are bone thin. They seem to think that it’s OK to wear sexy clothes as a size 6, but it's not for my wife, who is a size 14. I don’t think that’s fair. By the way, my wife isn’t wearing sexy clothes to church or anything. It’s when we go out socially. How can I support her and get others to stop whispering about her? -- Supporting My Wife

DEAR SUPPORTING MY WIFE: The body positivity movement has helped somewhat in this regard. Between celebrities such as Lizzo and fashion companies regularly extending their sizes to fit women beyond a 14, images of women with curvy bodies are far more prevalent today than in the recent past. Hopefully, this helps your wife know that she isn’t alone.

Without seeing her outfits, I can’t give you an informed opinion, but I will say that your wife should live her life and wear what she wants to wear. She should also be mindful to ensure that her looks are tasteful and appropriate for her body. While her size 14 curves are wonderful, many outfits do look different on different bodies. Not every look works for every shape.

How can you deal with the whispering? Ignore it. There will always be someone with an opinion. As long as you and your wife believe her look is appropriate for the moment, go forth and enjoy.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions toaskharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)