DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve usually only kept one or two close friends around me and considered the rest of the people I interacted with acquaintances. I tried having a larger friend group, and that didn’t fare well for me for many reasons, so I went back to just having one or two close friends. I find myself sometimes wishing that larger friend groups were for me because when my one friend is busy, I have to plan to do things by myself or not at all. I also feel as if I’m missing out on those “movie moments,” where you see a friend group doing something crazy together. I don’t know if I should give a friend group another chance or if I should just continue the way I am going with my life. -- Alone
DEAR ALONE: Some people are great at group interactions and engagements. Others, not so much. It is OK that you fall into the second group. It is important that you understand how you interact with people and what makes you comfortable. If you naturally find yourself making friends with a group of people, by all means explore that and see if it can work for you. In group dynamics, often individual members are closer to some friends than others, but if you sit back and observe and notice how people engage each other, you can find a rhythm that works for you.
If you don’t find that group, that’s OK too. It is even OK to make that movie moment a solo experience. Take yourself to the movies and enjoy what you see. Invite someone from work or your neighborhood to join you from time to time. You can be brave and bold in that way by inviting new people in, but don’t be afraid of going solo.