DEAR HARRIETTE: I am currently dealing with a bit of a health scare. This scare came out of nowhere for me, as I've never experienced anything like this before, even though I'm in my 30s. What's more troubling is that my mother just told me that this is something that may run in our family. Apparently, her mother and sister experienced similar health issues before I was born.
I know that my health is my responsibility, but I would have appreciated it if my mother, aunt or grandmother had said something to me about the likelihood of me experiencing the same issue. I feel a little resentful. What if I am not able to recover the way that they did? Am I wrong to feel resentful? -- Shaken Up
DEAR SHAKEN UP: People are often secretive about family history, especially as it relates to health challenges. It’s natural that you are upset that your family members neglected to tell you about this condition, but it is pointless to stay mad at them about it. Instead, interrogate them. Learn as much as you can about how they faced it. What measures, either medical or folkloric, did they use to address this condition?
Beyond this, ask them if there are any other health issues that your family has encountered. Do your best to learn more about your family’s health history by asking questions and listening closely.