DEAR HARRIETTE: I am probably what is called a high-functioning alcoholic. I drink a lot -- both with others and on my own. I do my job well, and I handle my business. Sometimes I am groggy during the day if I drank too much the night before, but mostly I manage just fine.
I was looking at my credit card statement recently and realized that I spent a lot of money last month on booze. That kind of alerted me to my reality. I’m sure my drinking is not good for my health, but I haven’t really been able to stop on my own. Since I don’t seem to be bothering anybody with it, does it even matter? I like to drink. My life is fine. Should I just leave well enough alone? -- Drinker
DEAR DRINKER: You have brought this up because on your own you have recognized that you drink too much. You don’t have to be a problem for other people to notice that your behavior is unhealthy for you. Give yourself credit for being aware of your situation. Chances are, there are issues you aren’t dealing with in your life that drinking helps to mask.
Your next step should be to get help. You can select a therapist who specializes in addictive behavior who can listen to you and help you unpack your situation and figure out a healthy way forward. You may also want to join Alcoholics Anonymous. This organization creates safe spaces for people to gather and talk about their addiction and support each other on their road to recovery.