DEAR HARRIETTE: From out of nowhere, I had a dream that was extremely provocative. Next thing you know, I was having a spontaneous orgasm, even though nobody touched me -- including myself. It was amazing and highly unusual. Nothing like that has ever happened to me. Meanwhile, I woke my husband up with the squirming that apparently was going on. I swear I don’t know if I said anything or what happened. I don’t remember the details of the dream either. I woke up to that feeling in my body, and I was like, “Whoa!”
Now my husband is accusing me of having an affair, or at least of wanting to, because he could tell that whatever was happening in my dream was sexual. I told him everything that happened, but he’s not satisfied because I don’t remember the details. What do I do now? That was such an amazing experience, but it has caused me a world of trouble. My husband and I haven’t been intimate in a long time, so now he thinks I have a lover on the side. I truly don’t! -- Dream Lover
DEAR DREAM LOVER: Rather than getting in a fight with your husband, ask him if he is willing to dream out loud with you. Take him on a fantasy journey by describing to him whatever you recall from your dream. Add provocative twists and turns. Ask him to play along and add his own ideas. Turn this moment that you enjoyed so much into something the two of you can have fun with, rather than a point of accusation. Make your own dream together!