DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m dating a man whose ex-girlfriend cannot seem to leave him alone. She follows him around and even shows up at his home unannounced while I’m there. He’s had to call the police on her a few times. It’s getting to the point where I’m concerned not only for his safety, but for my own. What should I do? -- Crazy Ex
DEAR CRAZY EX: Trust your inner voice. Jealous ex-partners can be dangerous. While your boyfriend cannot control his ex, you may want to put your relationship on pause until she calms down. Talk to him about your concerns. Make a plan together that puts both of your safety first. He may need to visit with the police and learn if they have any recommendations for safety precautions. If she doesn’t know where you live, your home might be a safe space, but if she follows him around, that may be dangerous as well.
Ultimately, you need to decide if this relationship is worth risking your safety. That may sound harsh, but sometimes these situations escalate and turn violent. Is this man worth your life?