DEAR HARRIETTE: An old friend of mine reached out to try to reconnect with me. She apologized for our estrangement and told me how much she’s missed our friendship. I was honestly excited to hear from her, as it’s been years since we last spoke, and I’ve pretty much moved on from any negative feelings I once felt toward her. We were supposed to catch up in person a few weeks ago, but she keeps canceling on me. We previously stopped talking because I felt like she would never really show up for me in the way I would show up for her. Could her flakiness be a sign that she hasn’t changed? -- Flaky Friend
DEAR FLAKY FRIEND: Take a step back and do an inventory on your past relationship. Why exactly did you stop being friends? Jog your memory to determine specifically what happened. Though you should have no interest in harboring resentment or negative feelings from the past, you do have the right and responsibility to take care of yourself by recalling what happened. Her flakiness is surely a sign that she does not prioritize your relationship today, regardless of what happened in the past. Now is the time for you to remember that she reached out to you to get back together. You have nothing left to do in this situation. Live your life. If she decides to reach out again, respond if you are available.