DEAR HARRIETTE: I have recently become good friends with a girl whose boyfriend and I used to date. We all went to the same college, so it isn’t a strange coincidence that we know each other, but the thing is, I have a feeling that it still makes her uncomfortable. Sometimes we’ll be chatting, and she’ll ask me random questions about my past relationship with her boyfriend. She’ll ask me about the things we used to argue about or if he was ever unfaithful to me. I have completely moved on from that relationship, and now I’m very happy with someone else, but I just wonder if she has some type of hidden agenda with me. I really like her, and I don’t want to make things weird. My other friends think it’s strange that she would even want to know the details of my short-lived relationship with her long-term boyfriend. What do you think? -- Friends or Foes
DEAR FRIENDS OR FOES: You have to establish boundaries with this new friend. Tell her you can understand that she would be curious about the relationship you had with her current boyfriend, but there is nothing to tell. You dated briefly a long time ago, and you haven’t looked back since. You do not want to talk about your past relationship because there’s really nothing to talk about. Don’t answer if she asks again.