DEAR HARRIETTE: The busiest season of the year has begun, and I seem to be getting a lot of invitations for events. I realize that I have gotten more than one invitation for a particular night, and I wish I could attend both events. One is a cocktail reception, and the other is a more formal dinner. Is it OK to go to the cocktail party briefly and then head to the dinner? I would be early for one and a little late for the other. I don’t want to be rude, but both are important for my work. -- RSVP

DEAR RSVP: Look closely at the invitations to see what is reasonable for you to do. If there is enough time for you to drop by the cocktail hour briefly and still arrive at the dinner before the meal will be served, go for it. What you don’t want to do is hold up the meal service at the formal event because you are tardy. You should also speak to the host of each event to explain your plans in advance. In this way, you will have managed their expectations.

When you go to the events, be strategic. Survey the room at the cocktail party. Figure out who you want to greet, and go directly to those people so that you use your time effectively. Be sure to greet the host. Since you will have already indicated that you will be leaving early, there is no need to say goodbye, which might disrupt the flow of the event.

At the dinner, arrive discreetly and do your best to insert yourself into the activities without calling too much attention to yourself.

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband constantly flirts with other women when we go out together. I find it annoying and rude. When I mention it to him, he says I am being too sensitive and that I need to lighten up. If his behavior makes me uncomfortable, I don’t want to overlook it.

For example, if we are out for dinner at a nice restaurant, he will take his eyes off me and notice the woman walking by or sitting at the next table and stop to compliment her on what she is wearing or even her fragrance. I think that’s going too far. He says he is being friendly. I would like for him to be friendly to me. How can I get him to understand how I feel? I hate this. -- Notice Me

DEAR NOTICE ME: Draw a line. Tell him how uncomfortable it makes you for him to constantly flirt with other women when you two are out together. You are not being too sensitive. You believe he is being inappropriate. Ask him to stop. If he refuses, perhaps you should stop going out with him.

This does point to a bigger issue, though. If your husband is unwilling to stop paying attention to other women when he is with you, perhaps there is a problem in your marriage. Do your best to get him to talk about what’s going on in his head.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a new friend who has a child who she says is “on the spectrum.” I have heard the term, of course, but I have never met anyone who has autism or is considered to be on the spectrum, at least not to my knowledge.

My friend talks about some of the challenges he has interacting with other children. I would like to be ready to engage this child in a supportive way, but I don’t have a clue as to what to do. I have done some reading, enough to figure out that there are all kinds of things that could be going on with a person who is on the spectrum. Would it be rude for me to ask my new friend what she recommends? I know this is a sensitive topic, but she did bring it up. -- On the Spectrum

DEAR ON THE SPECTRUM: The most thoughtful action you can take is to speak up and tell your friend that you have thought about what she told you about her son, and you want her input so that you can welcome him in an appropriate and loving manner. Ask for her advice on how to approach him.

Many children who are on the spectrum do not like too much physical contact, and sometimes loud noises and other such disruptions can be difficult. Ask your friend what stimuli work for her son and what he tends to avoid. Chances are, she will be relieved to learn that you are proactively trying to figure out how to best engage her son. For more ideas, go to: bit.ly/2oS6JCC.

DEAR HARRIETTE; I posted some photos on social media of my family from a recent get-together. One of my friends who has known my family for decades was mostly complimentary about the people in the pictures, but when he got to my sister -- the one who was often mean to me when I was a child -- he said she looked old and tired. I don’t necessarily see that when I look at her. I think he was trying to be nice to me because he knows how upset I used to get about how she treated me, but I still didn’t like it. Should I say something to him, or just leave it alone? -- Defending My Sister

DEAR DEFENDING MY SISTER: The moment has passed. You should let it go. If you have the occasion to speak to this friend again about your sister, share positive input about your most recent interactions with her. If you have been able to move past your childhood behaviors and establish a good rapport with her, share that with your friend.

You can also thank him for wanting to have your back when he saw your sister’s photo, but let him know that you are able to manage your emotions now. If you let him know that you are OK with her now, you will free him to have no more need for judgment of her either.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who is extremely pushy with her requests. She is a woman of privilege, and she is accustomed to getting her way immediately. She asked me to make an introduction, and I don’t think it’s a great idea. She pushed so hard that I reluctantly agreed.

I have been trying to figure out how to approach the situation to create the chance for a good outcome. She called me the next day to find out if I had reached out to the woman yet. I’m afraid that if she is pushy like this with my other friend, it will not end up going well for either of us. How can I preserve both relationships when this one friend just won’t let up? -- In the Middle

DEAR IN THE MIDDLE: If you truly don’t think you should make this connection, don’t do it. Stand up to your friend, and tell her why you don’t think it’s the right fit. In the best-case scenario, you can recommend someone else who might be better suited to your friend. Think long and hard for another person who would be able to welcome your friend’s pushy manner better. If nobody comes to mind, you can just say no to her. Or if you think the project she is representing is a good one but her demeanor is the problem, you could reach out to the person she requested and tell her that you know someone who has a great idea; you aren’t sure if it’s a fit, but you think it could be worth it for her to consider. Establishing a caveat could protect you. But beware, even lukewarm recommendations can seem much stronger to the person receiving them -- especially if you are highly regarded. So you must protect your reputation as you navigate this tricky situation.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am going to a three-day conference where I am a principal conference speaker. I am excited about this opportunity and want to do my best.

I was recently called and invited to speak at another event during the conference, but it conflicts with yet another meeting that I am scheduled to participate in. This is tough because I am interested in joining the leadership of the organization. I don’t think it’s wise to rescind my involvement in one meeting because another seems more high profile. How should I handle this? -- Climbing

DEAR CLIMBING: Thank the people who most recently invited you to be a part of their meeting. Let them know that while you will be at the conference, you have already confirmed your participation in an event at the same time as theirs. Ask if there might be another time during the conference when you can meet their principal constituency.

Meetings can occur over drinks, at meals or during cocktail receptions. You don’t have to close the door to getting to know those other people. Suggest other ideas and make it clear that you would like to be with them, but your previous commitment prohibits meeting at that specific time.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)