DEAR HARRIETTE: I work at a law firm in New York City. Recently, I was working late on a case, so I went out to get dinner. When I got back to the office, I heard a strange sound coming from my boss’s office. I was worried -- I’m a 25-year-old single woman -- so I peered into the office. I saw my boss and his assistant engaging in inappropriate acts. He saw someone was standing by the window, but I don’t know if he saw it was me. What do I do? Do I confront him? Do I pretend I never saw it? I feel so uncomfortable. -- Wish I Didn't See What I Did, New York City
DEAR WISH I DIDN’T SEE WHAT I DID: Leave it alone. Unless you saw something that seemed to be causing the assistant harm, consider the incident none of your business. Very little good can come from you bringing up their affair. If your boss asks you, though, that’s a different matter. You should be honest: Note that you heard a strange sound when you were coming back into the office and investigated what it was when you saw them in the office. You can state that it made you feel uncomfortable and unsafe, if that is true. But don’t bring it up on your own.