DEAR HARRIETTE: My ex-fiancee and I left off on a bad note. She walked in on me being unfaithful, and I don't think I can ever unsee the hurt in her eyes. We never got closure, and she refuses to speak to me since that horrible night.
I obviously have regrets about what happened, but now I am just focused on making sure she is safe and OK. I find myself driving by her house or parking in front a few times a day just to see if she's doing all right. Her flowers are watered, she's frequently in and out of the house and I don't think she's had many people over. I can't bring myself to stop checking on her house. Is this wrong? I feel like as long as it does not negatively impact her life, it is OK if I cruise by. -- Guardian Angel, Teaneck, New Jersey
DEAR GUARDIAN ANGEL: I hate to tell you this, but your ex would probably think of you more as a stalker than an angel. You betrayed her trust, and now you are lurking around "watching over her." This is not a good idea.
Sadly, you made a huge mistake that has cost you this relationship. You see that she is doing fine and living her life. It is time for you to move on and live yours. You have some inner work to do so that you can evaluate your choices. Why did you cheat on your fiancee? What do you want in the future in terms of a relationship? Do you believe you can be faithful in future relationships? Figure out where your head is so that you are ready for what lies ahead. Meanwhile, leave your ex alone.