DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my grandmothers passed away suddenly five years ago, when I was a teenager. I miss her, and I wish we had had more time together. I want to make the most of the time my other grandmother has, but she lives in a different country. I see her about once a year, but it seems like the visits aren't enough. I want to have a deeper connection with her. She doesn't particularly like talking over the phone, and does not understand how to FaceTime or video chat. How can I reach out to her meaningfully without going broke flying to see her? -- Can't Miss Connections, Jackson, Mississippi
DEAR CAN'T MISS CONNECTIONS: It is a blessing to have your grandmother, and it's wise of you to want to have meaningful connections with her.
Why not go all the way old-school? Send her handwritten notes -- if you have good handwriting. If not, type them out so that they are very easy to read. Write to her and include photos that show her what is happening in your life. In this way, she gets to enjoy your world from a distance, and she knows without question that you are thinking of her. Write to her on a regular basis -- at least once a month -- even if she doesn't write to you. Chances are, though, that if you make the effort, she will return it with joy. Start right away!