DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm feeling overwhelmed with work and family life. I was an avid traveler in my youth, and I miss the feeling of just being able to pack up and escape for a few days. When I told my husband how I was feeling, he said I was making him uncomfortable by talking about how I want to leave the family. I don't want to abandon anyone, but I do want to get in touch with my youthful days. I will not just disappear out of the blue to a new country! I want to plan a vacation for myself, but my husband's suspicions are making me second-guess myself. Is it wrong to take a few days for myself? I have sick days saved up and would like to escape my stressful work and home environment to recharge. -- Wanderlust, San Diego
DEAR WANDERLUST: Wanting a brief getaway is different from desiring to reclaim your youth. It is natural for your husband to be worried. You can allay his fears by first doing some soul searching. What do you really want?
Taking a few days away is something many people do, even wives and mothers with families. If you actually think you can tap into your youth, you need to know that idea is delusional. It would be better to tap into yourself today. If you need a breather, go for it. Be sure to let your husband and children know your plans -- especially that you are coming back home!