DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm seven months pregnant. I'm nervous because from here on out, I'm responsible for someone other than myself. As this pregnancy progresses, my boyfriend and I seem to do the opposite. He's always ready to pick a fight and catches an attitude over everything. I thought I was the pregnant one ...
Last night, I went through his phone. I know the saying, "Look for something hard enough, and you'll find it." Well, I did. I found texts between him and another woman. It looks as though he starts these arguments so he can leave to "cool off," so while I think he's at his friend's house, he's really at this girl's house. It hurt to know that's how he acts just so he can be with her.
I'm trying to stop stressing over it because I don't want to lose my baby. I'm so mad, hurt and saddened at the fact that instead of being with his pregnant girlfriend, he wants to be with the next girl. I'm still pretty; I haven't let pregnancy stop me -- I still cook, clean and work (from home now, but still). I don't see why he's doing this unless he's always been doing this, and I'm just now finding out. Do I leave him? I don't want to have to raise my child in two different households. But I also don't want to be walked all over or let him continue to have his cake and eat it, too. -- At a Crossroads, Tampa, Florida
DEAR AT A CROSSROADS: Confront your boyfriend about this relationship. Tell him how hurt and concerned you are. Ask him if he plans on staying with you and your growing family. Tell him you want to be a family, but you need 100 percent of him. Ask him to end this affair and refocus on you. His actions will let you know what to do.