DEAR HARRIETTE: I received a gift for the holidays that I am not happy about in the slightest. As part of a workplace Secret Santa exchange, a co-worker purchased me a pair of XXL spandex shorts and said they hope they fit. I clearly do not need that size, and it was given to me without a gift receipt. Additionally, skimpy shorts are not a funny gift to give a co-worker. I do go to the gym after work sometimes, so this may be where the inspiration for the spandex came from. I am pretty annoyed about this present because it's about four sizes too big, and I will never be able to use it, so it's useless AND everyone at the office laughed at me. I am debating never bringing up the shorts again or going along with everyone's jokes. Should I give this workplace clown the satisfaction of being offended by his gift? -- Not Funny, Memphis, Tennessee
DEAR NOT FUNNY: It's unfortunate when people take Secret Santa the wrong way. It is supposed to inspire feelings of good will for everyone involved -- at an affordable price. It is best if you let this go. If your co-workers continue to chide you about it, bring the spandex to work and toss it in the trash can the next time you hear the rude comments. Then, let it go.