DEAR HARRIETTE: I went to a new church while I was on vacation. The visiting minister who was preaching is a pretty well-known guy. I liked most of what he said, but I wanted to challenge some of his thoughts. I don't normally have a strong reaction to a minister's message, but this time I did. I am wondering if it is appropriate to follow up with him to ask if we could discuss his ideas some more. I know I am a random person in this man's busy life, but if he is a preacher, it seems to me he should at least consider addressing my questions. He presented a very provocative message that definitely resonated for me in some ways, but it rattled me in others. I want to learn more about his thinking and his premise. Do you think it's OK to contact him about this? -- Religious Inquiry, Miami
DEAR RELIGIOUS INQUIRY: I would imagine that this minister would be honored to have someone who listened to his sermon have commentary and questions about it. Now, depending on how busy he is and how large his congregation and his work are will determine how quickly he may get back to you. But you should definitely write him a letter or email stating when and where you heard him preach, what the title and subject of the message were and what your thoughts and questions are about it. By being specific, you will jog his memory. It is important not to assume that he will remember every sermon, given he likely delivers them on a weekly basis. He should remember his central points, and if you remind him, he should be able to respond to your questions.