DEAR HARRIETTE: Two months ago, I was in a serious car accident. I had the light, and a taxicab hit me. I was not able to move, and an ambulance had to take me to the hospital. The doctor told me I had broken my left hip and left leg, and he said it would take a year of rehab to get back to full strength. My husband has been very helpful with my rehab, but I can see my injuries are wearing on him. I have not been in a romantic mood since the accident. My husband would like some "quality time," and I would like him to be patient with me while I am in rehab. What should I tell him to do? -- On the Mend, Brooklyn, New York
DEAR ON THE MEND: Talk to your doctor about your condition and the status of your overall health. It could be that you are suffering from depression brought on by your condition. If so, your doctor can help you by prescribing medication to relieve you of your overall malaise.
In terms of asking your husband for patience, be straightforward with him. Tell him that your recovery has taken more of a toll on you than you imagined. Thank him for his continued understanding. While you may not be ready for full intimacy, see what you can do to comfort your husband. What would make him happy? His favorite meal? Tickets to his favorite ball game? Obviously, these things will not replace intimacy, but they can show that you care about him and are making an effort during this difficult time for you both.