DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I have been trying to eat healthier so I can lose some weight. I joined a gym and have been working out at least four times a week. Most of my friends have been understanding and supportive of this goal; however, one of my best friends is treating me as if it's a joke. She has not taken me seriously at all, and all she does is talk to me about food -- whether it's a new dessert place we need to try, or the mac and cheese she had for dinner the other night. I am insecure about this, and she makes me feel uncomfortable because I feel like all she does is judge. She is very manipulative, and it seems as if she does not want me to reach my goal. It stresses me out because she is always asking for plans, but I do not want to associate myself with someone so negative. How can I confront her about this in a nice way? -- Skinny Girl, Austin, Texas
DEAR SKINNY GIRL: Drum up the courage to speak directly to her. Tell her that it hurts your feelings knowing that she has been unsupportive of you in your efforts to get healthier and lose weight. Point out the things that she has said that have been hurtful. Remind her that you need her, as your friend, to be a cheerleader rather than a naysayer. Tell her that if she is unable to be supportive, you will not be able to spend as much time with her.
Do not feel bad about taking care of yourself. In order to make the huge step that you have embarked upon, you need to be completely focused. Surround yourself with supporters. And in the instances of the naysayers, decide that you will prove them wrong by winning on your journey to fitness.