DEAR HARRIETTE: I was cleaning up my house the other day and came across a bunch of old photos. I had such a nice time traveling down memory lane. At a certain point I found photos of a friend and her partner during a celebration, and I immediately thought that I should send them to her. Her partner died several years ago, and I know she still misses him terribly. The question I have about this is whether it will upset her to see the pictures and be reminded of those days gone by. The last thing I want to do is make her sad. When I saw the pictures, I smiled. Do you think it is worth it to send her the photos or should I leave the past in the past? -- Stirring up Memories, Baltimore
DEAR STIRRING UP MEMORIES: You can never know for certain how a person will react to images of people they love who have passed. It is likely that your friend will receive the photographs in the way that you intend them to be received. You say that the pictures are from a joyful time, which means they look happy. Chances are they will bring joy to your friend, even if they also trigger a few tears at the same time.