DEAR MISS MANNERS: As a paid member of a tennis center, I was able to bring a nonmember friend to play at an event. At that occasion, she met other members, who invited her to return in the future and play as their guest.
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I do not know these other people, nor do they know me, but apparently they are all continuing to play -- without me. That strikes me as just plain rude.
My friend was only at the event because I invited her, and would never have met the others had it not been for me. I think that when she was first invited, she should have replied that she was there as my guest and included me in the playing group.
Honestly, I do not feel kindly toward her any longer, nor do I feel inclined to invite her to anything ever again.
GENTLE READER: One expresses gratitude for introductions, but the recipient of one is not required to include the introducer in all future outings. Honeymoons would be less fun if so.
Your friend could not, in any case, have properly insisted that a hostess expand her guest list. What she could, and should, have done is to thank you profusely for the introduction and make a fuss over you when you run into one another at tennis.