DEAR MISS MANNERS: Which one is proper: the single mom calling the kids on Christmas Day to wish them a merry Christmas, or the kids calling the mom?
My middle son, 24 years old, called today and left a message saying he was disappointed that I didn’t call him on Christmas. I called him back and said I thought HE should have called ME.
Don’t kids call their parents (or single moms and dads) on special holidays and birthdays, or am I being old-fashioned? I’m confused.
GENTLE READER: Ah, the holiday spirit -- and its many ways to bear a grudge.
There is no etiquette rule that dictates who should initiate holiday calls. Alas, not even ones for single parents. The sole exception may be birthdays, but even those can be initiated by the honoree if they are in regards to receiving a card or present.
But Miss Manners strongly encourages you not to add this to the list of criteria upon which to measure love. Your relationships will be the better for it if you take the high road and simply call your children when you think of it. Even if you are thinking of it because you think they should call you.