DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a transgender woman who recently transitioned from living as a male to living as a female. I have a new name, and I look different enough that people who knew me before do not recognize me. I periodically see someone in public who knew me as a male.
What would be some good words to use to greet them and alert them to who I am without causing undue shock or giving them more information than they want to deal with?
GENTLE READER: “So good to see you again. You remember me as Zachery Morrow. I am now Zelda Morrow.”
Miss Manners then recommends changing the subject by inquiring about them. She says this because it is polite, but also because you already, no doubt, have enough people who want to quiz you about your transition.