DEAR MISS MANNERS: The wife of my husband’s best friend turned on me when I became friends with her stepdaughter. We tried to include her in everything we did, only to be turned down. She now addresses Christmas cards to my husband only. Would it be in bad form to “return to sender”?
GENTLE READER: Because it is the season to be snippy?
Surely the more dignified response is to ignore it. And as your husband may want to continue his friendship with his best friend, Miss Manners sees the added advantage here of its not provoking an all-out family feud.