DEAR MISS MANNERS: What do you think of the practice of service people, teachers, instructors, etc. who take care of one’s children calling the mother “Mom”?
For example, I take my child to the doctor’s office and when the nurse calls my child to the room, she addresses me like this: “Mom, we are going to Room 3, do you have any questions today?”
I find this happens all the time, and I’m guessing that people don’t feel like introducing themselves and finding out the mother’s name. Personally, I think my children should be the only ones to address me as “Mom,” but perhaps I should get over it.
But then again, maybe they wouldn’t mind if I addressed them as “Nurse Person” or “Instructor.”
I make an effort to know these people who are taking care of my children. Why can’t service people return the courtesy by introducing themselves?
GENTLE READER: The receptionist has your name; it is right there on the forms you filled out as the adult accompanying your child. And if his or her name is on a badge, you can use that.
But there is no absolute need for introductions. You could have been addressed as “ma’am” (presuming you do not object on the grounds that you are not really a grown-up), or even “Oliver’s mother.”
But “Mom” is indeed cheeky. Miss Manners’ dear mother’s response to such impudence was a gentle, “But surely if I were your mother, I would remember you.”