DEAR MISS MANNERS: For many years now, my spouse has "played around." I do not believe he has had any feelings toward the objects of his lust; it is more the thrill of the hunt. I have kept quiet for the duration of his disrespect of our relationship, but now my anger is at the boiling point.
Disregarding my obvious emotional handicaps in having not addressed this earlier, do I just look at him over the dinner table and unleash my rage? Or has the statute of limitations expired on that?
GENTLE READER: Has it expired on your rage? While tirelessly polite even in the most trying of circumstances, Miss Manners would not presume to deprive you of expressing your understandable and generously built-up anger.
The more important question here is what you plan to do after the explosion. If you intend to stay with your husband and think that things may change by this outburst -- or at least make you feel better about the situation -- then let loose.
However, if you are planning on leaving him, it might be more effective to write a well-worded note -- preferably from your lawyer -- and save your passion for a worthier gentleman.