DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is your stance on people who bring treats to work on their birthdays? Is it an attention-getting mechanism or a nice gesture?
I have done this once in the past, but I felt like everyone was wishing me happy birthday only because I brought in food. I'm not sure if I should bring in food again this year or not. (For the record, people regularly bring in food to share just as a nice gesture.)
GENTLE READER: This feels like a riddle. How would they have known that it was your birthday had you not brought in food? And because sometimes your colleagues bring in food when it's not their birthdays, does that mean people wouldn't assume it was your birthday since you brought in food?
Miss Manners has lost track of the problem. Is it, perhaps, that you want people to remember your birthday without being prompted? Or that you do not want to appear as if you are prompting them?
She suspects the latter. But as long as your treats are not accompanied by a self-congratulatory parade with a bullhorn, she permits you to continue enjoying your birthday however you wish -- and accepting the well wishes of your colleagues at face value.