DEAR ABBY: I have an acquaintance, "Tina," who I believe is fraudulently using her GoFundMe fundraising webpage. A close friend of hers set it up a few years ago to assist with medical bills related to a rare form of cancer that will never fully go away. When the page began, Tina was soliciting donations on Facebook and sending text messages to remind everyone to donate. Later on, when she and her husband went out of town for surgery, they posted about it as if it were a vacation.

Recently, she has had some legal bills for an unrelated matter, and a year after her last medical donation, she received a hefty donation that matched the amount of her legal bills. I suspect the person who donated the money was duped into believing Tina had another large medical bill, but she used that donation for her legal expenses.

On top of this, Tina has opened a new fundraising page with a sob story about her cancer returning and being hospitalized about a week before that request. Abby, I know full well Tina was healthy as an ox at the time, was not in the hospital and probably set this up to create a smokescreen to protect her malicious intentions. Now I keep wondering if I should report it, or if I'm better off minding my own business. -- NOT ADDING UP IN FLORIDA

DEAR NOT ADDING UP: If you sincerely think Tina has been abusing her GoFundMe page, report it. The process is not difficult. There is a notification button at the bottom of the page that can be pushed to alert its "Fraud Squad" that something shady might be going on.

DEAR ABBY: I've been married to the same man for nearly 50 years. We raised a sweet family, had successful careers and never strayed from each other. For the last 20-plus years, I've had little or no desire for sex. I understand it medically as well as emotionally, but Hubby doesn't get it at all. He thinks we should be like we were back in the '70s and '80s.

I'm happy for senior couples who engage in healthy sexual relationships. I am just no longer into it and, honestly, also not interested in taking medication to "enhance" me. What's wrong with a man taking something to "unenhance" himself? I know the biblical duty God gave for procreation, hence 100-year-old men fathering children with young women. The balance has never been BALANCED.

Yes, I had a hysterectomy 20 years ago. After that, I lost all interest, yet Hubby still had needs. Some are met; many are not. It is now a BIG issue. I'd like to sail peacefully through the next 10 years, if I have that long. I'd like him to find happiness, too. Is it crazy to divorce over such an age-old need for a man? -- HAPPY THIS WAY IN SOUTH CAROLINA

DEAR HAPPY: "Castrating" your husband is not the answer. If you two can agree on an arrangement that will benefit both of you, it would be emotionally and financially far less disruptive than a divorce.

DEAR ABBY: I moved across the country nine years ago to be closer to my parents as they age. They are now in their early to mid-80s. My mother has recently had a few falls. One was bad enough that she had to be taken by ambulance to the ER because she was not able to stand. (I suspect some of her falling is due to having a drink or two at a casino, which affects her balance.)

I have been saying for almost a year that my mother needs a walker. Because it has fallen on deaf ears, I took it upon myself to buy her a walker and shower chair. She and Dad are still convinced she doesn't need a walker. Abby, when we got to the hospital, she needed assistance to use the bathroom because she couldn't stand or walk on her own after the fall.

Today I learned she and Dad went to a casino without the walker. I am beside myself! They are either in denial or just don't want to listen to me, but I am at my wits' end because I'm sure this will happen again. I'm afraid her next fall may result in broken bones or worse. Any advice? -- FEARFUL DAUGHTER IN LAS VEGAS

DEAR DAUGHTER: You may be trying to reason with the wrong parent. Assuming they are both in their right minds, tell your father that with the history of falls your mother has, the result of the next one could be serious. Neither of them is a spring chicken. If either one, particularly your mother, were to break a hip and be bedridden, it could lead to pneumonia and death. If they make light of it, get their doctor to weigh in.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been friends with the "Joneses" for many years. We traditionally exchange gift baskets. I enjoy picking out treats and items I think they would enjoy when assembling their basket. I also give them home-baked items.

Last year, their basket for us contained a freebie calendar from a charity (we also received one from the charity; they gifted us one the previous year as well, and I had told them then that we already had one). There was also an amenity bar of soap from a hotel, a summer sausage, a small wheel of processed cheese and a 4-inch-by-5-inch print the wife bought at an art fair I had attended with her years before. It seemed like she just went around her house gathering things she didn't want for the basket.

This year, I'm thinking about telling them we would rather not exchange gifts as it seems they can't be bothered. Do you think I'm being grinchy? -- THOUGHT THAT COUNTS?

DEAR THOUGHT: Your friends may be experiencing financial difficulty. I do not think it would be kind or polite to tell them "it seems they can't be bothered." A better way to approach it might be to tell the wife that you and your husband are "cutting back on gift-giving this year," which is why you will be gifting friends a home-baked pie, cake, batch of cookies, etc., and you hope they will consider doing the same. (By the way, they already ARE cutting back, which is why you wrote to me!)

DEAR ABBY: Eighteen months ago, I was staying with my son and his family when they had a get-together with his wife, "Corrine's," father. His wife, Corrine's stepmother, had just finished chemo for several different types of cancer. When Corrine's dad went to leave, I offered to put together a small plate for his wife, hoping it would make her feel better.

When Corrine saw this from the outside, she came in and accused me of "giving away family food that her son might want." They have lots of money, and I replied that I just thought it would be nice for the recovering woman, and if Corrine thought she needed more food for her son, I'd be happy to get it.

My son and his wife have barely spoken to me since. I have offered to meet them for counseling and have sent my grandson little gifts every month, which have gone unacknowledged. I saw them for the first time last month at a family wedding. They barely said a word, and my son avoided me. The rest of the family could not believe how rude they were to me.

I don't know what else to do. I have reached out. I've written notes. When I talk with my son on the phone, he's receptive. Then he talks to his wife, and all of a sudden, nothing is acceptable. Please help. -- ESTRANGED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR ESTRANGED: Could there be more behind this than you have mentioned -- perhaps hurt feelings that drove Corinne over the edge? You have done all you can to make up with your super-sensitive daughter-in-law (who appears to be uniquely possessive of her food). Take a step back. Sometimes, things get better with time, and that is what I am hoping will happen for you.

DEAR ABBY: A year ago, I got out of a verbally abusive relationship. Five months later, I met the man of my dreams, who had also been in a very bad marriage. We are really good together, but if something bad happens, he flies off the handle and accuses me of being stupid and not normal. He also threatens to leave me if I don't change my behavior. This was the same threat I got from my ex. I suspect that when I get upset about a problem, he thinks I'm his ex-wife. What should I do? I love him, but I don't want to be back in the same kind of relationship as before. -- SCARED AND CONFUSED IN MICHIGAN

DEAR SCARED: You may not want to be back in the same kind of relationship that you had before, but it looks like that's almost exactly where you are. I don't blame you for being scared and confused because there is something wrong with your manpicker. You have now been with two emotional abusers. Before involving yourself in any more romantic relationships, it's important that you discuss this with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional who can help you break this pattern. If you do, you'll spare yourself years of bad choices and heartache.